I’ll start a little from afar, but I love vivid, imaginative examples through which the essence is clearly expressed and conveyed. A friend enthusiastically talks about speed reading courses (not cheap, I tell you): “I thought that I will simply learn to read faster, and this is more - to be able to process information faster per unit of time, as a result - to think faster and make decisions.” In the process of describing this example, I remember Nikolai Yagodkin and his school of teaching English. At one of the webinars he says a great phrase. Not verbatim, but in essence, I will reproduce it: “What do you think a parent pays for when he sends his child to study at a school where a month of education can cost 100 thousand rubles? - he pays for the environment in which the child will be.” And here I come to the main thing: working with a psychotherapist is work for the future, where you will choose that environment, that partner, those friends, those activities, those ways of responding that work for healthy homeostasis in the broadest sense of the word. You pay for a constructive style of thinking, for internal dialogue that works for your goals, desires, and needs. You are paying for adult and respectful relationships with those in your social circle. You pay yourself. For myself. The way you like yourself. For someone who knows how to stand up for himself. For the one who is not ashamed of himself. For someone who respects himself. For the one... choose for yourself. Because psychotherapy is, first of all, about a conscious choice in every minute (loudly said, of course) of your life. And responsibility for the consequences. Be motivated to change, otherwise the therapist is powerless. Any external motivation gives a spark. But your task is to bring this fuse, a torch, like an Olympic player, from the office to your life and ignite the spark that has arisen. A thought is not yet an action, but as one of the wise said (namely, Socrates): “Thoughts are blueprints.” future." I hope that I was able to convey mine in this post. Vizgalova Alena Borisovna. Psychologist, Gestalt therapist.