Once, about five years ago, I heard the following expression: “Being a woman is an art. She should belong to her man. And at the same time remain an individual.” Then it struck me with its depth and unattainability. And I set out to come to THIS, to experience THIS for myself. Then I didn’t even understand what kind of art this was and how it could be achieved. The word “belonging” repulsed me in itself. But in addition to the words, “remaining an individual” seemed magical and attractive. Logically, these two concepts seemed opposite, but even then I felt that in this opposition, in the gap between these two extremes, lies the secret of true femininity, the very art of being a woman. I read literature on this topic. Not purposefully, but when it fell into my hands. And she fell into my hands with enviable consistency. I read the opinions of domestic and foreign scientists. Now she approached her goal, now she moved away from it. And, in the end, I came across the original work of T.B. Vasilets. It talked about female and male roles. The fact that every person has a number of female and male roles, there is a whole spectrum of them and they are very diverse and interesting. They are in everyone, the only difference is whether they are included, whether they are initiated in a person or are in a latent, hidden state. And a person’s behavior and positioning of oneself in society greatly depends on which roles are included and which are not. At the same time, clients came to me with completely different life situations. For example: “I am such a good wife/housewife and mother, but my husband cheated on me. Why? How could he? Or: “I’m so beautiful, smart, ready to start a family, but the man I love hasn’t proposed marriage for several years. How can he not understand that the time has long come?” And there are many such examples. I began to think and draw parallels. After all, all these women talked about their roles and the discrepancies between their ideas or desires and reality. Thus, I concluded that the presence of all these roles in a person (in this case, I’m talking about women) is directly dependent on the art of being a woman, a happy woman. I realized that a woman is a flexible and multifaceted creature. In life, she must have a whole set of roles in order to be known as a loyal friend, a seductive and sexy woman, a skillful wife, mother and housewife, a reliable supporter and an inspiration for her man. And all these social roles correspond to the following internal roles: Witch - stores sacred information and shares it in doses. She flirts with men, but doesn’t let them get close yet. This role corresponds to adolescence. It is then that she is initiated, awakens in a woman. The Amazon competes with a man, provokes him, tests his strength. She is self-sufficient, lives in a community of her own kind. Men are needed here only for procreation. Geisha - initiates a man into the secret of intimacy with a woman. A geisha accepts, loves and respects her body, knows how to shape it and control it in the full sense of the word. This is the stage of development when a man sees a woman as a woman, and the woman already owns the treasure of erotic and aesthetic feminine power. Its healing properties begin to manifest in a man the most romantic of his aspirations. A geisha, feeling like a woman, knows how to create for a man that spiritual nourishing environment where he especially fully feels like a man. She knows his strengths and weaknesses, knows what balm to pour on his spiritual wounds. Wife/mother - accepts the seed and gives the man the opportunity to continue the family. Integration occurs through comprehension of the deepest meaning of inextricable unity: wife = woman. Here a point of merging of the internal structures of wife and mother is formed. Creating something new, a new life. The Queen - arranges the environment, distributes functions and responsibilities in the family, society, and cares. Deep sense of self-esteem. Fairy – protects the mental world of a man, inspires, heals, helps,!