From the author: The article was published in the September issue of the magazine Detki.kzChildren's aggression - what is it? Here he is, still a cute child, who was recently carried in his arms, rolled in a stroller, suddenly becomes angry and aggressive. He fights, bites, offends other children, takes away and breaks other people's toys and things, swings his arms at elders, hits, screams. Moms are sounding the alarm. He is only five, seven, eight, nine years old. The neighbors complain, the children don't want to play with it. What do parents face? Why does a child become angry, irritable, uncontrollable? Computer games? An overabundance of information (Internet, TV, tablet and phone)? Or is not everything okay in the family? There are many reasons for child aggression. Its manifestation is a signal that the child does not feel safe and is trying to protect himself and survive as best he can, experiencing fear, stress, despair, doubt, disappointment, jealousy. Also, the cause of childhood aggression can be traumatic brain injury, residual organic brain damage (children with mental retardation, ADHD). Aggression (not its extreme manifestations, not thoughtless cruelty, but energy, internal potential, pressure) in itself is not evil, it is given to us by nature, and nature is wise and does not give birth to anything just like that. You just need to explain to the child the nature of aggression in a timely and correct manner, and direct it in a positive, creative direction. Aggressive behavior does not always cause harm to another person or object. Activity, leadership abilities, the ability to stand up for oneself, perseverance in achieving set goals have the same origin as disobedience, cruelty, and stubbornness. Life is an adventure in which you need to be able to fight, overcome obstacles, take initiative, defend your position in life, support yourself and friends. If you do not teach a child this, he can become weak-willed, weak, inert, rigid, not stubborn, but stubborn to his own detriment. Take a closer look at your child in preschool age; perhaps he is not just a bully and a brawler, but a future champion, manager, leader, president. Help him develop the best aspects of his personality and character traits through sports, creativity and harmonious family relationships. A couple of examples: The boy Sasha lives with his mother, his parents are divorced. Dad rarely communicates with his son. Problems appeared in the first grade, when Sasha began to pinch, scratch, and push children. Children, parents, and teachers began to complain about Sasha. Unfortunately, the child became an outcast. The children didn't want to play with him. The parents came for a consultation with a psychologist and agreed to accept general rules of interaction among themselves on the basis of mutual respect and partner parental responsibility for raising the child. And work was carried out with the child on adopting the rules of communication in a team and a conversation about rules and laws, why they are needed in general. The boy David is seven years old, his mother brought him for a consultation. When excited, the child stutters, is rarely and rarely interested in anything, does not want to go to school or extracurricular activities, and is bored there. The only exciting activity is a tablet, playing Minecraft, then he is happy. It is difficult to build relationships with children, does not harm anyone, the child has auto-aggression. He can beat himself, present himself in a funny, unsightly way, deliberately spit, play with snot and saliva so that others will feel disgust and contempt for him. He scolds himself, he may call himself a fool, stupid. Adults also treat him with contempt. A prosperous family? The reason for the child’s dislike for himself is the lack of a warm atmosphere in the family, a formal attitude towards each other. If there is a mother, father, grandmothers, the mother is busy at work, the father, in order not to burden himself with the problems of raising and communicating with the child, taught the child to computer games and a tablet, the grandmother in the family acts as a nanny, housekeeper, where the priority is that the child is clean and full. Outwardly, a completely prosperous family. A frequent request from parents is to do something with my son, daughter. Unfortunately, many parents do not realize that the problems are not theirs.-2015