Most of the girls who choose married partners for relationships do not do this by chance, but have psychological unconscious reasons. An affair with a married man The topic of affairs with married men has long been present in our society and millions of girls every year they step on the same rake, living in the hope of a happy happy ending after the divorce of the man they have chosen, or simply continuing a relationship that does not always bring happiness and joy. Most of the girls who choose married partners for relationships do not do it by chance, but have unconscious psychological reasons. This article is about how decisions made affect us, what consequences they have and what needs to be done to build a harmonious relationship with an unmarried man. Scenarios for the development of relationships One of the illustrative cases, published with the permission of the client, shows the principle of choosing married partners, happened with Elena, 32 years old, has been suffering for more than 5 years in a relationship with a married man. It seems like you want to let go, but you can’t. Every time, having made promises and vows to break up with a married man, Lena is still drawn to him again, as soon as she “beckons with her finger.” This has long turned into emotional dependence, depression, a dull and gray world, despair and lack of understanding of her future. She lives with one thought about him, hoping for his divorce from his wife and the beginning of a joint relationship with him. But this does not happen, her suffering only intensifies and gradually turns into emotional dependence. He writes a text message, beckons her - she drops everything and comes to him, then swears to herself that “she will no longer respond to these ill-fated text messages” and will never meet him. But a new day comes, a new text message and the situation repeats itself. And I really want a normal family, a loving husband and children, “but why can’t I leave him?” Model of relationships from the family Scenarios for the development of relationships in the form of children’s beliefs and decisions act as a life plan, a script. It consists of hundreds of small attitudes, principles, views, examples that gradually go into the subconscious and unconsciously affect many areas. We can see the presence of a script only after the situation is over: “well, here we go again” is a typical example of its impact. Repeating events, meetings, incidents are not an evil fate or inferiority, but the action of a decision made once. Decisions made by her grandmother, another maternal figure, also influence the sphere of relationships. Why did I choose a married man? During one consultation, we reveal the background of her life: how often friends of her parents in their families constantly swore that marriage had become something for her from a young age. then bad and unnecessary, like Lena’s dad, jokingly, said many times: “You need to rely only on yourself, don’t share responsibility with anyone,” like Lena’s father, also jokingly, said, “Don’t get married, Lenka, there’s nothing to do there.” "(I broadcast my own negative attitudes towards marriage and women through jokes). Elena begins to recall forgotten memories of previous childhood decisions in the field of relationships: about refusing marriage (as dad said), the desire to have only “light affairs that lead nowhere” (you can’t rely on anyone, you have to do everything yourself), never get married, so as not to suffer in marriage like others (unwillingness to repeat the family model of your parents). These decisions began to take effect then, in distant childhood, when the father joked, but little Lenka believed and lived like that until she was 32 years old. Now is the time to change yourself and your subconscious decisions. After three consultations upon completion of our work: do you need relationships with married men? - I ask. "To me? No, absolutely not needed. Of course, it’s surprising that my life developed because of my dad’s instructions in the form of jokes, but I believe and know that everything has already changed now. I changed my childhood attitudes, and now I will find myself a good husband, loving, kind, interested in a long-term relationship, and I will be with him. Because