"Try to change yourself, and you will understand how insignificant your chances of changing others are" Often we spend a lot of energy and nerves in relationships with people when we are not satisfied with their behavior, actions, words towards us . We are trying to prove something to them, to convince them of something, so that they improve, change. But as a rule, these efforts turn out to be futile (unless, of course, we have the talent to convince others and highly developed communication skills). But not everyone has this ability. When I started publishing articles on social networks, I encountered what are called comments. They are different, positive and negative. Moreover, I consider negative comments not those where people express their point of view different from mine on some issue raised in the article. These are just positive comments for me, comments where I can look at this issue in a different way, and maybe somehow adjust my position. I consider negative comments from critics who do not care about the essence of the issue, they are not open to discussion, they The main thing is to have a conflict, to throw out your accumulated aggression through criticism, to assert yourself, to promote yourself. Their comments are full of conflict generators: a position of superiority, aggressiveness, categoricalness, unsolicited advice, getting personal, etc. I admit that sometimes I catch myself also using the above-listed conflictogens in my comments, and I try to track this and change. By the way, comments are a great opportunity to train your communication skills. Unlike live communication, here we don’t have to answer right away, we have time to think calmly, time to let our emotions cool down. Well, returning to the topic of the article, is it necessary to waste energy and time to change someone? I think definitely not in relation to the unimportant, unimportant people in my life, people whom I can do just fine without. Remember how many conflict situations arise with such people, often even strangers. In the same comments, I entered into a dialogue with critics. And do you think it did anything? Apart from wasted time and nerves, no. Because these people are not ready for discussion, they have other goals. And after listening and reading experienced bloggers, I was once again convinced that it is much easier and better to simply delete these comments and block their authors. As they say, “out of sight, out of mind.” I think it’s useful to do the same in our relationships in life. But when blocking and removing people from your life, it is important not to get carried away with this process, so as not to be left alone. After all, there are people both close and necessary to us, with whom we also have conflicts. And here you need to talk, develop your communication skills, and grow personally in these relationships. But that is another story.