Deceived trust, betrayed trust, abuse of trust are frequent and common expressions that resonate with acute or aching pain in the soul of every person. One way or another, each of us was once overtaken by the pain of betrayal, someone else's or our own. Trust is not an abstract category, it is very personal and always belongs to someone. There is no total trust of everyone in everyone and everyone in everything. It is selective and directly related to loyalty. If there is trust in a relationship, we exchange confidential information, give the other special rights and powers, believe in goodwill and loyalty, and evaluate our relationship as safe. By trusting another, we let him into our inner world. This is why loss of trust hurts everyone so much. This loss separates people and destroys the relationship between them. Trust is tested in situational response, in behavior under/in certain circumstances. That is, in the dynamics of relationship development. The saddest thing is that behavior in a very important situation does not show the true character of a person. It must be studied in everyday simple, routine, everyday affairs. “Trust is the result of successfully surviving a risk” (Jack R. Gibb) Trust = before - faith, that is, faith in advance, hope for faith in safety next to another person. In fact, this is an independent form of faith, based on an internal feeling, most often intuitive, and even irrational: there is no certainty that security is guaranteed, and yet the trusting person is ready to rely on someone, entrust himself to another, accept what comes from him, with assigning it a high reliability coefficient. How to learn to trust? 1. answer: would I like to have a friend like me? or business partner? If you trust yourself, you can trust others. Because you will be sure that in the event of a breach of trust, you will still cope with the consequences. Therefore, first you should learn to be honest with yourself, to be able to reveal your self-deception. Are you always reliable, sincere, and do your words match what you think and do? Then what do you expect from the other person? Accordingly, we first strengthen our character and only then begin to strengthen relationships with others. 2. Trust is not a constant value, it should not be blind! You need to view it in the dynamics of relationship development. Someone who abuses the trust of other people cannot guarantee that in a relationship with you he will be a faithful and reliable partner. If your girlfriend/friend is leading someone by the nose and asks you to help her/him with this, be sure that if necessary, she/he will do the same with you. Of course not now, but in due time the stereotypical thinking and behavioral pattern will work. Therefore, do not lie to yourself that “she/he will never do this to me! We have a different relationship!” Will arrive. And you too, by the way. If today your tactics are to deceive, slander, or use someone, tomorrow you will do this with the person most dear to you. 3. Remember your credibility. If it is exhausted, there is nothing you can do about it, you are bankrupt. Accordingly, you need to regularly demonstrate behavior that strengthens trust between you. What to do if your credibility has been exhausted? And it turns out that these relationships are the most important for you? What can be done to improve the situation? How to convince a person that you can be trusted and that this time the risk will be worth it?1. Admit the fact of your betrayal. Willing or involuntary. Without self-flagellation and sprinkling ashes on your head. It's impressive, but no one needs it.2. Recognize the other’s right to be offended, not want to deal with you, to be angry and intransigent.3. While he is busy with himself and how he knows how to heal his soul, sort out your permitting system - find out why you allowed yourself to commit such an act. Explain it to yourself, don't justify it! Work through the problematic aspect, preferably with a psychologist. Look for how you can eliminate the cause that!