Psychotherapy is needed so that in the end the client no longer needs therapy. The ideal outcome of therapy is that the client begins to feel well enough and therapy stops. These are quite clear things, an axiom that seems to be clear to everyone. But sometimes in therapy, for some reason, its goal is lost sight of - the well-being of the client. And without this goal, this process turns into exaggeration of pain and endless living of suffering. If you have a broken leg, then your task is not only to heal it and endure everything that accompanies this process. In general, the main goal in this situation is to start walking again. I assume that those who are reading this know very well what it is like to be dejected, depressed and sad. But do we manage to rejoice? Is it enough to simply remove sadness from life in order to feel good? Erich Fromm, who had already set his teeth on edge, wrote about “freedom from” and “freedom for.” If the first simply gets rid of troubles, then the second gives meaning - I get rid of the unpleasant, because it prevents me from living well. Therefore, motive and determination are very important in therapy. Naturally, they are not immediately detected. Often people come to the therapist who are confused, confused, and find it difficult to imagine that they can influence anything in principle. But even in the hope of receiving help, even in the most elusive and weak hope, there is a seed from which determination grows. After all, enormous efforts are often needed. Efforts to talk about the problem. Efforts to trust and show yourself weak and unable to cope on your own. And efforts to respect yourself for every step you take. Is life difficult and scary? Yes, it happens that it is extremely difficult and scary. But besides this there are many joyful and good things. And they are worth digging into life to the best of your ability, being aggressive, trying to take your place through pain and failure. Gather strength, grab difficult circumstances by the throat and make it clear that you are not going to leave without a fight.