From the author: In previous articles we touched on issues of genetics and education. But for a full review, one more area is missing. So, today we are talking about the psychology of relationships. In previous articles we touched on issues of genetics and upbringing. But for a full review, one more area is missing. So, today we are talking about the psychology of relationships. And perhaps many will not like this article. I’m not writing a manual on the topic of popular buttons on a man’s body, pressing which gives guaranteed results. In this article, I invite women to realize that it is impossible to understand another person, it is impossible to understand which sofa the masculinity of men has rolled into, without understanding your femininity, without understanding yourself. My clients, women whose relationships have ended, are very unclear in explaining why. But in general, it all comes down to one thing - the partner did not live up to expectations. Typically, women expect that their men: Are attentive, love unconditionally, give warmth and tenderness Smart, kind, caring, sensitive, know how to listen Interested in everything they are interested in Reliable support and earn enough Do not have any shortcomings Do not make any claims. They are constantly in love, and are happy about the kind of woman they got. Ideally, there is a holiday every day in the form of flowers, going out, declarations of love, and so on all their lives. Translated into the language of psychology, a woman dreams that a man will decide everything for her Problems. Freed me from inner loneliness and feelings of insecurity. He fulfilled all his secret desires, filled his life to the brim and made her happy. At the same time, it is advisable not to do anything yourself. That is: A woman wants a strong, responsible, protector, a real man next to her. A woman wants not to change anything in her behavior and in her attitude towards relationships - everything should be done by a man. But these are two incompatible desires! Naturally, this does not happen. And the woman begins to rebel: She begins to demand anything, hiding the main message behind it: - Do at least something to make me happy! She throws hysterics to her man or constantly makes claims; She compares her man with others so that he finally something has changed; When expectations are not realized, she feels useless and abandoned; She waits for love, lives in illusions and does not notice a real living man nearby. At the same time, the request for happiness that a man should give her contradicts the basic law of nature, which says, that no one can make anyone happy, HAPPINESS IS YOUR INNER FLOWERING. Living in illusions destroys relationships without allowing them to blossom. To change this, it is important to do at least three things. 1. Decide why you need a man. And if in order for your relationship to blossom, and with it your femininity, then stop raising a man. Do you think that by raising a man, you are growing him? No! You cut oak leaves out of an acorn with a jigsaw, instead of watering the acorn with your trust and love, growing from it a mighty oak tree, in the shade of which you can rest well. Before you, he was raised by his mother all the time. And you just play the same game, mother and son, and the man doesn't have a chance to grow up. As a result, there are two results: First: from the role of mother, you have taken upon yourself, and are bearing full responsibility for any consequences of any actions of a man. You are a mother, and therefore the eldest in the family. “There is no money - it’s my own fault.” Second: how long can sexual energy flow between mother and son? I have already written that incest is not welcomed by nature. And now he is already looking to the side. 2. Start GROWING a man (the less experience your relationship has, the easier it is to do this). This process has many rules and nuances, but the main thing you can do right away is to trust his masculinity, his impulses to do something for you, his desires to take the initiative, his nature to cope with difficulties on his own. Only trust cultivates responsibility in a man for himself and for his environment. Spill on the man 2)