You and I have already talked more than once about how important it is to relieve tension and let go of negativity while expecting pregnancy. And it doesn’t matter whether the long-awaited baby will come naturally or with the help reproductive technologies. It is advisable for all expectant mothers to take care of themselves, trying to surround themselves with peace and joy as much as possible. Here and also here I wrote how this can be done and promised to dwell on some practices in more detail. Therefore, today I want to write a little more about written exercises that help relieve stress , calm down, let go of the negative and clear your head. Perhaps many of you have already tried keeping a diary or writing letters about grievances. I hope you felt that this was really useful. For expectant mothers who are still experiencing reproductive difficulties (infertility, miscarriage), written practices can be doubly useful! Why? Yes, often there is simply no one to share such grief and experiences with, except your psychologist! Unfortunately. Therefore, I suggest you write down all your bad thoughts and feelings on a piece of paper every day. What to write, they often ask? I don’t know for sure, because these are your thoughts. Whatever comes to mind. Whatever you do is right. The main thing is to take a pencil (I love it) or a pen, a piece of paper and retire for about 15 minutes. Open all your difficult thoughts and experiences to paper. Give and pour out all the negativity that has accumulated at the moment. Or at least part of it. We'll see how it goes. Here's an example of how it could be: My new doctor looks like a professional, but she's too tough. I didn’t feel very comfortable with her at the reception today. But everyone recommends it. I doubt. Go into pregnancy with her? And if not with her, then look for a doctor again? I'm so tired of this. Why is all the responsibility on me? I'm afraid to make any mistake so that failure will happen again. I'm tired of these thoughts that are constantly spinning in my head. Today a friend called and cheerfully chattered into the phone that Sveta was expecting a child and was already in her fifth month. I was indignant that she didn’t tell us about this earlier. Lord, I won’t tell you at all before school that I gave birth. Why are you telling me all this? Do you think I'm pleased? Or don’t you even think about how it feels for me to hear this after two unsuccessful attempts to give birth?! I already hardly communicate with anyone. It looks like we'll have to cut back on conversations with her too. Why are people so incorrect? I'm sick of all this. Today my mother-in-law came to visit us. If it weren’t for the holiday, I definitely would not have allowed this meeting to take place in our house. But here, it was somehow awkward to refuse. I came to congratulate you on gifts. I need them? And of course, we couldn’t do without her questions and advice on how best to get pregnant as quickly as possible, because I’m already old and I’m not trying hard enough. Others at my age are already preparing for their third, but I haven’t even given her one grandchild yet. To be honest, I really want her to disappear from my life forever. By any means. Yes Yes. Well, I just got tired of it. I think you can finish when you feel that it has become a little easier. Maybe a liberating exhalation or lightness just above the chest. And just to be sure, crumple up the leaf and burn it. Let your experiences today dissipate along with the smoke, scatter into small specks of dust, be washed away with water and disappear! This helps. I highly recommend writing practices to keep yourself in a good state of mind! I wish all expectant mothers strength and love. Here you can see my book about infertility and miscarriage You can see my other articles here On my page you can read reviews from women about our work You can make an appointment via WhatsApp/Viber: ☎️+7929 9020234☎️+7916 4015150 Katerina Istratova (psychologist, online consultant, author of books for women).