It happens that a person comes with a problem that he is not ready to solve right now. He doesn’t even see or understand the full depth of the problem. He may think that just a little more, and everything will be as before. Or he can still see the reason anywhere, just not in himself. But he needs help and has already come close to understanding his situation. What then? First of all, you shouldn’t force things. Time. Place. Circumstances. Everything should come together at the right point, on its own - you shouldn’t “lead” him there, trying to help, and making yourself a crutch. And you shouldn’t do it for him, taking on other people’s lessons, letting yourself go mending other people’s holes. It’s expensive and will never work. Another way: give him a shovel - yes, tell him where to get fertilizer - yes, but don’t dig his own garden for him... You can keep him occupied with supportive measures, and measures that continue to bring him closer to that line, having taken a step beyond which he will face his life situation face to face, but more prepared. It is important that a person draws his own conclusions. Here we, as they say in Montessori pedagogy, retreat and wait. We can offer him ways to strengthen those other areas of his life that can become supportive, will not allow him to roll back or even completely wilt under the weight of the inevitable awareness, event. When necessary, inspire him to contribute more movements, when necessary, to help slow down... You can, if a person is receptive to this, inspire him with positive examples, parables. Support indirectly and prepare, making it clear that anything can happen, but the future is probabilistic, and much depends on oneself. The main thing is not what is already happening, but how we react and what we choose. We can reduce the excessive significance of the situation. For example, expand his horizons by talking about the fact that we always exist, that this particular life is just a small episode on a long journey, it is important where you are going. And at the same time increase the importance of what is unchangeable. You can give him universal tools. For example, remind you of the power of prayer. And you can pray for him. If we say that psychology is the science of the soul. Although she mainly deals with the mind, which is also temporary...