🍒Secondary benefit in psychology are factors that encourage a person to remain in a problematic state for as long as possible. 🍒Very often we make a decision, for example, to lose weight and don’t do anything for it. Not on purpose, well, an urgent matter at work just arrived and I need to be 100% involved in it, questions have arisen in the family that require my complete immersion. Sound familiar? Actually In fact, these words hide a secondary benefit. It’s as if we are distracted from the goal by something more important. I remember that I want and I want it...as soon as I finish it I’ll do it right away, I’ll achieve it...I’ll take it...As long as I don’t like myself, as long as my appearance doesn’t suit me, I can: 1 Avoid noisy parties, people tire me. 2 When asked by my parents when will I get married, answer that men don’t like me and then you don’t have to have children and a husband.... there’s so much trouble in that 🙈 3 Devote more time to yourself and your pleasures, I like ice cream watching TV) 4 I can attract attention, talking about my problem...suffering and asking for help.5 I can count on the care of others and myself, because I am unhappy...and in childhood it was a good option to attract the attention of my parents.6, etc., etc.. Read, Now you may have objections. No..no...that’s not true, you’re slandering things.Are my words offended? And when you are offended, what are you like at that moment? Weak? So you need help? You feel bad, so I should be more attentive with you, take care and not criticize... so... so... and other objections? Here is another option for secondary benefit, someone is offended and waits for support, and someone reads and chooses for themselves build your life and don’t wait for help to arrive from other people, who will extend that helping hand. How do you want to live, simpler or more conscious? Do you want to wait for someone to take responsibility for you or take a step towards meeting yourself? Today in our group on eating disorders there is a live broadcast about secondary benefits. Our month is dedicated to changes.. and 10 beautiful girls are ready to face resistance and make changes with support two psychologists. Of course, it’s not easy to change your life, take responsibility, accept yourself, your emotions, your body... as if seeing yourself not in a distorting mirror, but in reality... live... Start of a new group 05/23/22. There are 10 people in the group, we work for a month, accompanied by two psychologists. Sign up via messenger!