Many during consultations ask the question: “If children become adults and continue to live under their parents’ roof, is this normal?” In recent years, the age of separation from the parental family has shifted from 18 to 25 years. There are frequent situations of “returners”, when young couples divorce and return to their parental families. In Russia, half of unmarried women with children live with their parents. Adult children live with their parents for economic, social, and psychological reasons. For “daddy’s girls” and “mama’s little boys” this is the only place of emotional comfort and safety. Especially when in childhood and adolescence there were harmonious relationships with parents, their love and support was felt. If growing children have not transferred happy experiences into independent life, then a new partnership may cause them disappointment and return them to their parents’ shelter. In order to cut the “umbilical cord” of emotional dependence on the mother and not bury their personal life, adult children should not linger in the parental home, but create your own space. Such “communal life” interferes with both parents and children, restricts freedom of expression of feelings, approval, attention, sexual relationships. The parents’ home is a place where you can emotionally recover, but do not count on the harmonious coexistence of several generations under one roof. For the time you live together, agree on new rules. Divide the area (including closets, kitchen) so that everyone has their own space. Redistribute everyone's responsibilities and financial investment. If you temporarily have no income, discuss with your parents how and with what you can help them. During the consultation, the woman expressed the point of view that children remain children until the end of our lives, and they need help at any age. From an age standpoint, that's true. The age difference will remain, but relationships will change. And here it is important to understand - this is a manifestation of parental love, care or guardianship over children and deprivation of their freedom of choice. What do you think, dear subscribers?! But if you have complete “discord” in your family and the relationship has reached a dead end, then it is better to turn to family psychologist. Your family psychologist Irina Kilina 89618640530