We all know how scary anger can be. A person who falls into the power of this emotion can be dangerous, destroy, literally sweep away everything in his path. The scale of emotions of anger has several components: from mild irritation, turning into anger and then into rage. Irritation becomes rage when anger is “accumulated”, when we endure for a long time, without noticing that we have been irritated for a long time. Anger is a complex, compound emotion. That is, there is always something more behind it - another emotion, more profound (for example, fear, and more often love) or need. We begin to get irritated when something wrong begins to happen in the field (society, place in which we are). This is exactly how irritation manifests itself – an unclear “not right”, “wrong”. It is very important for us to listen to this signal from our body (and the emotion of irritation manifests itself, like all emotions, in the body, most often as a headache) and ask ourselves - what don’t I like now? Usually we get angry when our boundaries are violated, that is someone is not attentive to our internal territory, our inner world - criticizes it, does not notice us, rudely intrudes with questions, comments, inappropriate jokes, or even physically. Anger immediately wakes up and signals - this can’t happen to me, this needs to be stopped or changed! Our task is to understand what is wrong in the field and find a way to communicate this to others, to those who violate our boundaries. At the same time, it is important to find a way that suits you and the situation - to say directly (if these are people with whom it is safe to open up), leave the traumatic situation, push away, etc. Usually a lot of feelings awaken in this place - is it appropriate to say that I am cold? , if all the windows are open and everyone is fine? Maybe it seems to me that I don’t want this at all? my feelings are not that important, why bother – I’ll survive! people don't care, no one will listen to me! Why spoil everyone's mood with your claims? and so on. This is how we deny ourselves value, importance, and trust. But anger does not go away, it curls up inside - making itself felt once, twice, ten times, accumulating - and shoots out in the form of passion, when any little thing is a trigger. And... children get hit on the back of the head, their own limbs break from aggression directed at themselves, and not at those who are supposed to, or as in the joke - “this mood disappears, can I kick your dog?” To summarize: you won’t have to control your anger if you express it on time, in a form when we are only a little irritated and people are quite able to hear us. It’s probably worth controlling rage, because it is destructive and dangerous for you and others, but controlling rage will not save you from the most important need - to love, hear and notice yourself.