Not only the husband can go on a spree, but also the wife. Among my clients, quite often there is a request from men: - What to do, what to do if your wife goes on a spree? The situation with spree is different for everyone. Someone’s wife has changed her social circle, goes to restaurants with her friends, starts coming home later, and is less involved in family life. Some people don’t come home to spend the night at all, others have become addicted to bad habits, etc. The man is perplexed, because it wasn’t always like this. Until recently, she was an exemplary housewife, a caring wife, she stayed at home or worked at some kind of “cushy” job with a standard schedule. And suddenly this. Here are the typical reasons why this happens 1) This was her way of life before, but you didn’t understand or refused to notice. For example, if before living together you knew little of each other, if a child was born right away, and she was forced to plunge into worries. But as soon as it became easier, she returned to her usual way of life. 2) Reaction to a life crisis Feeling of dissatisfaction, failure, death of someone close. It seems to her that she lives so brightly, is distracted, “gets” all the best from life. But she herself does not understand that she is becoming destructive. 3) Influence of the environment New girlfriends, colleagues. Or even her mother or sister may not love you and encourage her daughter to look for a better life and a better partner.4) She is taking revenge on you in this way. Or maybe there was a period in your life when you allowed yourself more. Maybe she is jealous of you, wants to teach you a lesson for something. 5) She is trying to prove something to herself or others. This is a kind of rebellion, protest. Again, the topic is closely related to the environment and the crisis period of life. 6) Your spouse has changed a lot, but you have not noticed these changes. It is possible that she has undergone a transformation a long time ago, and you have not yet accepted it. For example, the area of ​​employment changed, people began to earn more, other values ​​and priorities appeared. 7) This is already treason. Unfortunately, this may be a cover for treason. Not parties there and not girlfriends, but a specific romance. What to do? How to behave if you still leave any chance of saving the family?1) Understand whether something can be restored or is it too late?2) Decide with yourself - what you will be ready to forgive and what not3) Find out what she thinks about about your relationships and your actions4) Understand the dynamics of what is happening. If everything is only getting worse, then “sobering” actions are needed 5) Try to negotiate: discuss acceptable terms, find a compromise 6) If the spouse refuses to discuss, then it is optimal to take an agreed break and keep a distance. And at a distance, think about everything again. Vera Bokareva, psychologist, psychotherapist, sexologist, doctor of medical sciences. Sign up for a consultation: WhatsApp / Viber / Telegram: +7-963-231-37-12 / verabo.ru