If you have lost hope in your dream, read to the end “She’s definitely happy! I achieved everything! Business/marriage/children/beauty (what ever) And I’m already 20/30/40! There's no point in continuing! - Do you recognize yourself? Moving only upward, towards success, without losses and sliding to the bottom - this is an illusion of our mind. When we are inspired by something new: be it fitness, or Spanish classes, a new nutrition system, a new business, a blog on the Internet, business - we We often live in idealization: everything is fine, it’s mine, it suits me 100%, I can do it, I’m gifted. As we progress, our high expectations are disappointed. There wasn’t enough knowledge/willpower/money/perseverance/connections, etc. And at this point some (most) people stop. Accepts failure. (Is this a failure?) According to my observations, it is at this moment (approx. Confirmation of the scenario) that a control comes to mind - a crisis in the country/world/illness/death of a loved one/running out of money/difficulties in relationships/friendships, etc. - here those who remain are even more disappointed. Because at the first steps, difficulties seem to fall from heaven. “How long will they test my strength?” - we complain about life. Those who are still climbing towards their dreams suddenly find themselves at a point of “rest” - there are no leaps, no takeoffs, peace and quiet. No billions, no gorgeous abs like in the picture, no global trading network, no Oscar, no husband Brad Pitt, children spit and say bad words - having tested us for toughness, life has moved on to testing patience. And here it is important to notice your achievements , take credit for your efforts, thank yourself for your resilience, learn your lessons! After all, this is where growth and rise begin! Sometimes barely noticeable, slow. Your experience, your wisdom, perseverance lead you to real, NOT inevitable success! Those who really didn’t want it that much are eliminated. A kind of life sieve - everything unnecessary drains away. Everyone who has chosen their own authentic path of development faces incredible difficulties on their way! This is the price of the chosen path. And the test is whether we are ready, from a mature adult position, to face the fact that our expectations are completely inadequate to the reality that is around us. When we wave our hands that he/she/the world is inadequate, there is no doubt that we ourselves are inadequate! Hear me now. We from the Child are hitting the water with our hands, we are angry that someone could, took a risk, broke through, but I didn’t... we are not ready to be flexible, we are not ready to adapt to rapidly changing circumstances. Truly, we are waiting for the right moment. But (please understand and forgive) such a moment will never come! Success through a sharp jump or an unexpected crisis - both of these are NOT from reality. Both processes are gradual, step-by-step, and it is only our responsibility to notice this, accept and adapt. Or be offended by that guy, that bank, that manager and that upstart. Or go and try, do it. Yes, today there is one client, not 10. We were expecting a million sales, but there were 100 of them. The contractors let us down. Colleagues deceived me. It’s frustrating, yes, sometimes it’s a huge blow, but to withstand, change guidelines, build new routes is the skill of a mature person! The world is not ideal. Whether you like it or not. If today you find yourself at the point of “failure”, I ask you to go through these points. Understand that the world/God/people have no task to punish/offend/teach you a lesson. You didn’t check with reality, and it’s only your fault that something didn’t work out. Although I sincerely understand how difficult it is to accept. “I’m Sonya, I can’t lose weight. But I want to admit, every night I overeat to my heart’s content with cookies and cakes, and the weight doesn’t come off not because the trainer is slacking, although I wrote a lot of complaints about him. It’s all about me!” Admitting your mistake does not mean repenting before the whole honest world, blaming yourself - no! Recognizing your responsibility, your contribution means looking at things adequately! Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop being a victim. And start loving yourself, look for possible options that are right for me! Seek help from those who have been in!