From the author: Codependency is not a death sentence))) How often do codependents pay attention to their body, to its parts? and what kind of attention is this? One day I consciously asked myself these questions. This happened, oddly enough, during water procedures. I look and see that I have nails, imagine, everyone has nails, but the fact that I have them is surprising. I’m writing and it’s funny to me, when you’re a recovering person, you perceive a lot of things with a smile) It’s interesting that besides nails I also have something else, I’m starting to carefully examine myself, and not in the mirror, mmmmmmmmm what I saw made me happy, I have a body, I like something , some things are not, but overall it’s very good. I started noticing my body and its individual parts when the beginnings of boundaries appeared. When a codependent person has already established contact with himself or has been in contact at least several times, this will sooner or later lead him to think about his boundaries. Before contact with oneself, codependency creates “blindness” towards oneself as a whole, affecting all areas of a person’s life. A codependent person “looks but does not see.” Moreover, vision is tunnel, narrow, and the brightness of colors may often be absent. Wikipedia gives an interesting description of such vision as a disease - “Tunnel vision is a painful condition of vision in which a person loses the ability to peripherally view. Only the image falling on the central region of the retina is perceived. As a result, the patient has difficulties with orientation in space.” The so-called tunnel vision, when there is no internal observer and “analyst”, I do not observe and analyze, and therefore I do not see why this is happening in my life. Codependency is a tricky disease; outwardly it may seem that a person is well-groomed, sporty, stylish and fashionable, but in reality it can be an outer shell and a disease hidden under it. Also, a codependent person can be unkempt, untidy in clothes, in body, in words. Codependency does not have a specific appearance. My experience of interacting with the body in codependency is enormous, as soon as I felt contact with myself, my bones began to “break”, my whole body ached, my shoulder blades were shaking, since then I stopped hunching over, the first process of transformation was completed success. Then I wanted to be in contact with myself more and more often, the desire for contact entailed the dissolution of tunnel vision, I felt how my eyes “spread apart”, funny, but it’s true. At first my vision hurt, I began to see widely and brightly. And when I began to SEE, my knowledge of the body began. My gaze suddenly stopped on the body, on some place of the body, and I asked myself - “Do I like the way this part of the body looks? Or maybe it’s sick?” A sea of ​​questions for yourself. I realized that my body had been neglected for many years, I neglected it, I didn’t think about it, I didn’t feel it. A codependent can walk around with dirty hair and nails and not attach any importance to it, go to work with a fever, a sore back, a headache and sincerely think that I should. Step by step and through hard work, the codependent gets to know his body. Different people have different times of awareness. And in general, I came to the conclusion that codependents have a lot in common, but the disease is individual, the speed of recovery is different. I am a recovering codependent and I am happy.