This article will help you understand what happens in the remnants of the brains of kitchen boxers, abusers and other fauna when they aggressively yell and beat women, children and anyone they consider weaker than themselves. However, they will just as actively grovel before the one they consider stronger and assure him of their loyalty and devotion, wagging their butts, splashing saliva and other biological fluids with zeal. I will also describe what the ladder of violence is and how it goes down from the boss shouting at his subordinates to the wife and children of the subordinate at whom he shouts. How schools raise losers and how parents willingly help them in this. And why haters like to come to the forum and pour out negativity on anyone they come across and who they really are.. Instructions on how to get serotonin in a natural, healthy way, is located here. And we’ll talk about why it’s so sweet for an abuser to find a victim and revel in sadism. Serotonin VS cortisol1) Serotonin in its healthy form is released when a person overcomes difficulties and achieves difficult goals, during intense physical activity, when, for example, a second wind is gained, and in other cases described in my above-mentioned article. The action of this neurotransmitter and tissue hormone is experienced as a pleasant feeling of calm and confidence, even power. “I can do everything step by step” “I can solve any problem at a level sufficient for results.” The more successfully solved life problems, the higher your self-confidence and serotonin levels. 2) The exception to this rule is successful girls who are perfectionists, for whom a toxic environment artificially lowers their self-esteem and self-confidence. Perfectionists try to earn respect and appreciation by doing more and more for their toxic parents or husbands in order to be a good mother or wife or daughter, but this is basically impossible. More and more will be demanded of them, and in the end they will inevitably experience burnout or situational depression. Thus, “good girls” flush their lives down the toilet, doing Sisyphean work and proving that they are worthy of humane treatment. Which, in fact, any person is initially worthy of. 3) Serotonin is released from hobbies and interesting activities, when a person concentrates his attention on something. 4) Serotonin is also released when a person sees non-verbal signs of submission and respect and feels that he is respected and obeyed or even simply obeyed. Being a charismatic leader is hormonally beneficial; the leader receives a sea of ​​serotonin. That’s what we’ll talk about today. Submission or power can be obtained in 2 ways: 1. Voluntarily, with the help of charisma, the leader’s achievements, his outstanding qualities necessary to complete the task, a high level of intelligence and goodwill, caring about other people.2. Violently, through intimidation and tyranny - and this is about abuse. When a person intimidates the weak and receives a reaction of submission in response, his serotonin level increases. (Position of the tyrant in the Karpman triangle). This serotonin: - light, does not require effort, only a suitable victim is needed - is released as a result of toxic manipulations, so I call it “toxic” serotonin, although in itself, of course, serotonin cannot be toxic. And for someone who is being intimidated and whoever agrees and obeys this, the level of cortisol increases. (The position of the victim in the Karpman triangle) Where do abusers come from? As a child, he most often had a model of abusive relationships between his parents, violence that he himself was subjected to, internalized as the norm, and ultimately chose to be a rapist. At the same time, many were subjected to violent upbringing in childhood, but one part of the people says: I am categorically against this and will not do this to anyone again. These people have retained the core of their personality, its core. And the second part accepts this as the norm and begins to climb up the hierarchical ladder according toon the heads of the weaker, including subjecting women and children to emotional and physical violence. Abusers are broken as individuals and have become nothingness within themselves. They do not have empathy because they do not know how it is to feel, to love themselves and others (this applies more to schizoids, somewhat less to narcissists). At the same time, they are distinguished by an ingrained belief in their subcortex about their exclusivity, specialness and even genius, but, alas, unrecognized. This is what causes them resentment and hatred towards all of humanity or its individual categories. They are extremely sensitive to what is said about them, this is much more important than the comfort of those unfortunate people who have become their family. They will yell at their children at home, but they will never do this in front of people whose evaluation they are concerned about. In public they will create the illusion of an ideal family. They know how to manipulate well. They can be found among alcoholics, drug addicts, losers of all kinds. But sometimes these are people in power, and there is even a theory that their concentration is greater there, because empathy and compassion there hinder advancement. They may also be top managers; the difference between abusive top managers is the need to be toxic, to humiliate other people, trying to close the gaping hole of internal insignificance that grew from childhood like a cancerous tumor. And of course, these include ordinary Internet forum trolls. How do they get serotonin? Just as there is light dopamine from aimless surfing on social networks, there is also light serotonin, when you can simply speak badly about someone or scold someone, judge, and a surge of serotonin is guaranteed. Businessmen are bad. All women are bitches. The thread author is an idiot. Thus, by creating an illusion in the form of a white coat, the troll asserts itself by inventing non-existent pictures of the world, where he is the smartest, while remaining anonymous. As soon as the troll sees someone bright, interesting, smart and stands out, he will try to bully him in order to get a surge of confidence in to yourself. Sometimes they are bombarded by certain topics. And that's great because you can use them to advertise yourself and your projects. Later in the articles I will tell you how to do this. Codependency. The position of a tyrant. Typically, tyrants and abusers cannot live their lives and enjoy being alone with themselves. This is unbearable for them; they definitely need communication. But! not any communication, but one in which they assert themselves at the expense of the codependent victim. So, you can see a “pregnant” and outwardly ugly man who reprimands a beautiful girl that cellulite has begun to appear above her knee. And she, being trapped in perfectionism, will think about non-existent cellulite, and not about her partner’s huge belly and why she is still with him. Without a victim, the tyrant will begin drug withdrawal due to a decrease in the level of serotonin, which they have nothing to raise due to the lack of interests and hobbies. An obsession with one's own imaginary greatness creates a desert in the abuser's life. He is incredibly bored being alone. Ladder of violence. From time to time we see parents yelling at their children. This is just a piece of the puzzle, its last piece. How the full scenario of the ladder of violence develops: A boss yelled at a subordinate. The boss released serotonin, the subordinate felt humiliated, and received cortisol. Living with cortisol is uncomfortable and scary; you need serotonin to bring the nervous system into balance. A mentally stable person will use stress management techniques, take a consultation with a psychologist and think through a plan to influence his boss in order to protect himself environmentally and use this situation for career growth, perhaps make a plan to change jobs, go to training or take up a hobby - and get your hormones of happiness. And a mentally unstable person, who has no interests and who is accustomed to asserting himself at the expense of the weak, will come home and yell at his wife, and in the worst case, even beat him. After this, his serotonin level will return to normal, and his wife’s cortisol level will increase. Which/129!