I decided to write this article because lately I often have to work with people who have problems with eating behavior. As a rule, these are unhappy girls who describe symptoms of unconscious compulsive ingestion of everything edible, ( symptoms that have been familiar to me for many years in a row). It is interesting that in addition to disturbances in relationships with food, these girls also have complaints about disturbances in relationships with men. As a rule, they either reject men who are attracted to them and remain alone. Or they agree to have sexual relations with men who cannot offer them more than sex. If we consider these two problems - overeating and the inability to establish high-quality, full-fledged relationships with a partner - in the system, then we can notice some patterns. Let's start from the very beginning, with the birth of a child . It is known that the baby has fused feelings of satiety, safety and love. He gets his first relationship experience from contact with his mother during feeding. During this period, some disturbances may occur. The child, according to his nature, dictates a certain feeding schedule, and the mother must follow it. If the mother frustrates this need, then the baby may begin to suck quickly without getting satiated. From here, the compulsive overeating that clients talk about will later arise. If the mother does not look at the child with love when feeding, he will reject the unloving mother - for example, by regurgitating food. If for a mother caring for a child comes down to feeding him, and not smiling, hugging and rocking him just like that, then the child will perceive such food as a threat of humiliation of love. Food is perceived as the only way to show love. The child may protest against this and refuse feeding, and therefore refuse love, or he may passively accept the fact that he is overfed. In any case, he is hungry for love. Growing up, such a child unconsciously recreates these relationships with others. The closest contact for a baby is during feeding. For an adult, the closest contact is sex. Now for an adult child, sex is perceived as the only way to show love. And he/she may protest against this and refuse sex, and therefore avoid relationships altogether. Or humbly accept a relationship in which they “feed” only sex, and console themselves with the thought that this is about love. In any case, a person experiences a hunger for love, which in itself, of course, is not natural, but it is so familiar and understandable because it has been this way since his birth.