Every day we talk about something and do something. The place and situations in which we find ourselves in 1 month, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years depend on , what we are doing today. Please look at these two circles - the circle of concerns and the circle of influence. What does it include - what are our actions? I’ll say right away that a happy and successful person is in the circle of influence, no matter what he does and what happens to him never happened in his life, he focuses on himself and his actions that will lead him to the desired result. (Image taken from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey) Circle of Influence: If the goal is marital happiness: What can I do to: · My husband and I understand each other better? · Was this evening more interesting? · The dinner I I’m cooking, has it become even tastier?· ​​Has my husband become even more pleasant with me?· My relationship with my child or my children has become even better, so that I understand him (her, them) even more? Etc. If the goal is personal beauty and harmony in the soul: What can I do to: · My skin becomes more beautiful and well-groomed? · My figure becomes more slender (if this is a problem)? · My mood becomes even more cheerful ?· I felt even happier - what do I love, what do I want, what do I dream about?· Was I even more attractive? Etc.· Was I more interesting to myself and other people? If the goal is financial success and professional self-realization: What can I do to: · My salary become even larger? · My income became even larger? · I have progressed on the career ladder?· Did I feel smart, talented, successful? Etc. That is, all those thoughts and actions that will help you become more successful in family and personal life, professional and personal development. They are based on a positive attitude towards the world and faith in yourself, your abilities and capabilities. Circle of concerns :The neighbor has a handsome husband, but she herself is scary. Why does she have everything, but nothing to me? And where do people get that kind of money - everyone’s cars, apartments, or what? I read today about an official who took a bribe. The weather today is terrible. Any negative thoughts about the government, roads, food, artists and singers, clothes, neighbors, police officers, store clerks, etc. That is, all thoughts and conversations that do not help you become more successful in your family and personal life, professional and personal development. They are based on a negative attitude towards world, awareness of one’s inferiority and envy of more successful and happy people. This negativity is addictive. We know the law: the external is a reflection of the internal. Accordingly, the greater the envy and negativity towards other people and life in general, the more vile people you will meet and a person will end up in more negative situations. You may ask, if these situations and people occur, what should you do? After all, we can’t pretend that nothing bad is happening in our lives. A person in the circle of influence will think about what can be done about this particular situation. And a person in the circle of worries will remember that this happened to a friend and a neighbor, and this generally happens often, because life is just a nightmare! And if you remember “the government, roads, food, artists and singers, clothes, neighbors, police, store clerks, etc.”, you don’t want to live like that at all. there is a person in the circle of concerns who only needs a reason to throw mud at everyone and everything. While a person in the circle of influence will solve a specific problem that has specific reasons for its occurrence, or maybe there are none, but it will still have to be solved and he will solve this problem. And he will immediately forget about these difficulties, because he will go to enjoy life, since “life is good, and living is good! And living well is even better!” Therefore, a person in the circle of influence will always find something to occupy himself with in order to live exactly