Introduction Let's think about what distinguishes an adult from a child. Leg size, beard and ability to take responsibility. So, failure to take that very responsibility is called infantilism. This is what we will talk about. The topic is common and, unfortunately, affects a person’s social adaptation. From the context, you can already understand that the effect is not always in the best way, but there are exceptions. The topic of infantility is a complicated one. It can be a consequence of more structural character traits, as well as defense mechanisms of the psyche that are triggered in certain situations. In this article we will talk about the characteristics, causes and ways of resolution, including through real exercises. The main characteristics of infantilism include: Difficulty in accepting responsibility. It looks simple, but it is difficult for a person to make a choice and take responsibility for it. Very often in such situations you need a third one, someone who knows how to “correctly” Emotional instability A far-fetched point. In short, it can be more difficult for a person to withstand and regulate emotional stress. Avoidance strategies. The name itself speaks for itself. In relationships, at work, outer space, etc. a person naturally chooses to falsely ignore difficulties and, as a consequence, of the situations that these difficulties cause. Not stability in relationships. It is systematically difficult for a person to maintain relationships with the opposite sex. Of course, if the opposite sex is not the mother. Yes, even here there are difficulties. Causes of infantile behavior. Genetic factors and predisposition. Anything can happen here. Genetic mutations change brain structures and are not particularly simple in nature as a bonus of inheritance. Influences of society. It sounds abstract since society consists of Gali, Ksyusha, Stas and Valera. What if the relationship with Natasha (mother) developed in such a way that the person was decided to have no right to choose. Psychological factors. This point partially follows from the previous one. Traumatic experience - absence or excessive presence of emotional support. Excessive anxiety and social awkwardness in various systems of relationships. Exercises As you already understand, the topic of infantility is the topic of full-fledged psychotherapy. Many songs have been sung and many books have been written about this. In this article, I would like to focus on actual exercises. The Weight Sheet Method Identify the problem and clearly state it on a piece of paper. Make a list of all the solutions. Be creative, the more options you can specify, the better. For each option, determine its reality. You can rate from 1 to 10 where 1 is the minimum value and 10 is the maximum. Analyze the list of options. Try to understand how options with a high degree of reality correspond to your goals, principles, etc. And to what extent do they correspond to solving your problems? Make decisions, remember the decision made is not only the first step, but also the second and third. Table of pros and cons. Create a table that lists both the pros and cons of specific solutions. Define the exact problem. Let's say you need to attract more customers to your business. Create a list of options for solving this problem: for example, I will write one item Improve the website, Solutions Pros Cons Create a website Improving the website will increase the number of conversions, thereby helping to reduce advertising costs. Improving the website requires finding a specialist, allocating a budget and testing various options during the advertising process, which will take a certain amount of time and eat up additional budget