This is how it happens. A woman is faced with the question of whether to file for divorce or not? The crisis in the family and dissatisfaction with relationships reaches its climax. Because relationships with my husband cause more negative emotions. And thought number one comes: “It’s impossible to live like this.” Then follows a series of arguments illustrating this fact. Then thought number two comes: “We need to do something.” What? For example, get a divorce. This thought, I think, has entered the mind of every angry wife. And here is the third thought: “What will I do after the divorce?” Usually the answer is that I won’t be left alone, I’ll find someone else. Someone who will be better, smarter, richer, kinder and more beautiful. Quite a reasonable dream. And it can happen. Or maybe not. What to do? How to make a decision? In this article, I want to show the amount of time and energy that you will spend on any of the possible options for getting out of a problem situation.T. that is, when it is impossible to live like this any longer and, as a result, either get a divorce and exchange your old husband for a new one, or work on old relationships in order to improve the situation in the family. What is your time and energy spent on if you decide to get a divorce and start a family with another man - on the process of divorce and division of property; - on restoring oneself after a divorce, learning lessons and healing wounds; - on finding a new man suitable for a relationship; - on creating a strong relationship and a harmonious family with him; At the same time, there is always the possibility that when When a family crisis comes (and it will definitely come), then, without having the skills to cope with the crisis, the choice will again be for divorce. What do you spend time and energy on when you decide to normalize and maintain a relationship? - on understanding yourself, your goals, what you want to receive from your spouse, what you can give to your spouse, your needs and capabilities; - on the ability to listen and understand your spouse, respect his interests; understand your interests and be able to talk about it calmly - to master the skill of talking - without blaming, condemning, or teasing, but accepting, approving and appreciating openness, allowing for the possibility that each of you is right; - to search for solutions that suit each of you family members; In a nutshell, all the work will be aimed at understanding what you have in common and how you differ from each other and finding solutions on how to make sure that these differences do not bring discomfort and conflicts, and joy and benefit to each family member and strengthened it. Let me sum it up. To restore yourself after a divorce (on a stress scale of 70 points), to find a new man, to create new relationships, you will spend a lot of physical and emotional energy and time on changes outside. Restoring relationships will require deep internal work on yourself. Which also requires a lot of effort, desire, and time. And perhaps the help of a specialist. So, you have made your choice. Divorce - then you can stop reading the article and go to the website where you can download the divorce application form. Fill it out and have a happy new life! If you decide that it’s worth trying to save your family, then where to start. Ask your husband: Does he want this or not? “Darling, I think that our relationship is going through a crisis. The word “divorce” is heard more and more often in our disputes. And then we will scatter and everyone will start with a clean slate. The paths will diverge. Everyone will spend a lot of effort on a new path. But we can use these powers to try to change our relationships. Are you ready for this? Or should I go straight to the registry office for a divorce?” Men are very reluctant to go to the registry office. And when to get married and when to get divorced. Therefore, the issue of preserving the family is most likely important to him. Don't demand an answer right away. Give him time to think about it. Although if he is in favor of divorce, don’t hold him back. If he agrees that it’s worth fighting for the family, start thinking together about what and how to change in the family so that everyone is comfortable. And first, learn to talk to each other. Everyone has accumulated complaints. There is no point in starting with complaints. Start with gratitude. Start with why you +79622053564