From the author: This article was published on 05/08/2012 here: Very often mothers and fathers come to us in full hope that we will instruct their children to be/become obedient, so as not to they climbed everywhere so as not to touch what was not allowed, but was in the public domain. In general, so that the child becomes comfortable for them. Dear parents! Remember what childhood is? What issues does a little man solve in childhood? What would you like to do as a child if you had the opportunity again? I think that there is no way to correspond to either parental status or the established order. Run, jump, learn something new together with mom and dad... The baby wants to receive approval for his actions, and a constructive explanation for mischief, why this cannot be done. It's constructive. The child may not understand all the words, but by the intonation he will understand that he is taken into account and can explain why and why. Of course, the little person must also be responsible for something specific, but this is not earlier than 5 years. And before that, the baby can simply carry out some instructions from adults, together with them or without them, if there is such an opportunity and need. Even if it’s cleaning your own room, or caring for your own kitten. But... with a belt, because the child did not clean HIS room on time... This is unnecessary. It’s not even that it’s superfluous, but simply out of hand. A baby’s room is first and foremost his room, it’s his space. And you can say: “Friends come to see you. How do you like it when they come and your bed, for example, isn’t made?” I think the kid will think about such arguments. And water, as you know, wears away stones. The main thing is to remain constructive and calm. Why am I writing? After another consultation and after another walk with my son. Dear moms and dads! ATTENTION!1. If you dress your child for a walk, then assume that the baby will run through puddles, climb into the sandbox and ride down the slide. He explores this world! And calling your baby “Piglet” is self-destructive, because an apple tree will not produce an orange.2. Even if a child plays pranks on the street, there is no need to hit him or scream at the top of his lungs. The baby will hear you perfectly even when you speak in a whisper. But if you yell at him, then the baby shuts down and you definitely won’t see the positive effect of your negative influence. You will only harm the child. And restoring a child’s trust is oh so difficult! 3. Don't call your baby GREEDY!!! If he does not give his toy to another child, then he has every right to do so, because it is HIS toy!!! Parents, be adequate in your role! Good luck and constructivism to everyone!)) Ekaterina Zavarukhina