There is a common belief: “If I ask for support, it means I’m not coping with my life.” However, this is completely wrong. Now I’ll tell you why. The last group this year was devoted to a request for support. One way or another this topic comes up in every group. The question of support is very multifaceted. Do we know how to provide it, do we know how to receive it? Do we know what exactly we need when we ask for support? For me, this is the main question. Time after time in my life and through the experiences of clients, I am faced with the fact that no one but us knows how best to help us. A group member shared his difficult life situation. Problems at work, caring for family and children, financial difficulties. Sometimes the number of difficulties exceeds our available resources to overcome alone. The client's request was due to the fact that the support he received was not suitable for him. And this happens often. Even if we don’t ask for help, others see and feel our difficulties and try to help us. However, they help because they are used to it. Because they can. And this often does not coincide with what we need. They can invade our personal boundaries, advise, act without consulting us. This makes us angry. What we miss is that they are trying to help, they just don’t know how. If we formulate how we need to help, it will be easier for both parties. Then we can turn to loved ones for help - financial, psychological, emotional, moral. We may skip this step because it seems to us that admitting the fact that we need support means that we are weak and cannot cope with our lives on our own. However, this is completely wrong! Everyone, every person has moments in life when they need support. And it’s not that he can’t cope without her. Most likely he will cope, the only question is at what cost and whether we are depriving ourselves of the opportunity to make our life easier and not doom ourselves to suffering alone. By not asking for help, we also take away the opportunity from our loved ones to show their love towards us (which can be a resource for them, and not just for us) - maybe they would be happy to help us, but they don’t know how. What to do? Ask for specific support from specific people. Someone can help you with something (screw a shelf onto the wall, help with a difficult task, temporarily take on part of your responsibilities). Someone can help you emotionally. Talk to you, withstand your difficult feelings, be together. Even if you need a magic kick, I’m sure there will be a person among your loved ones who is ready to give it to you. The main thing here is not to get confused! Man is not an island, we don’t have to go through all the difficulties alone.