Neurosis is the inability to tolerate uncertainty. Sigmund Freud How wonderful and safe it is to be in an understandable and calm situation, for example, taking a warm bath, or at work where you worked for several years, or in the Magnit store, where you have long ago learned the entire product range and know perfectly well where everything is. But From time to time, fate confronts us with completely unpredictable situations - dismissal, demolition of a store, shutdown of hot water. And then we find ourselves in that very uncertainty that is difficult to bear. Our whole body turns into a small, frightened child who has not learned his lesson, but he is called to the board, he needs to answer something, he needs to act somehow, but nothing comes to mind does not come from what was previously learned; no diagrams, no rules, no tables arise in my head. We run for advice to friends, relatives, smart and experienced. But they either brush it off or offer something that doesn’t suit us even at first glance, and at the second glance it causes either disgust or irritation because this experience does not fit on us, like a jacket that doesn’t fit. The situation with water and the store It’s easier to solve, everyone has some experience here. But, for example, if you were offered 2 good positions to choose from, or your husband has taken a mistress and is going to leave the family, or, let’s say you are sitting in line to see a doctor and cannot figure out whether she will be able to see you before the end of the shift or not. But , jokes aside, our whole life is actually one continuous uncertainty. No matter how much we would like to live in a permanent, unchanging safe world, reality tells us something else. And due to the fact that it is difficult to accept this constantly changing reality, not according to our forecasts, we prefer to live either in the past or in the future, because only these temporary states can be controlled in our fantasies. Hence neurosis. Like lack of sensation, lack of understanding, lack of awareness of what is happening to us here and now and what surrounds us at this moment. And that means dissatisfaction of your real true needs. But everything ingenious, as we already know, is simple. You just have to try to find yourself in the moment, stop in your thoughts, predictions and experiences of what happened earlier. Just slow down and see what and who surrounds us, what the air temperature is, what people’s faces are like, what they smell like, what they sound like, and generally where I am at the moment. And also try to feel myself, listen to my emotions, experiences, and describe them in words . Pay attention to what is happening to our body and how it responds to what is happening around us. What hurts, where it crunches or pulls, where it’s uncomfortable and pinches, For a second, for a minute, for a few minutes, and the body itself will tell you what it needs, even hint where you can get it, at arm’s length.