Raising boys in a woman’s life. Today I want to talk about this. I often see boys who are raised more by their mothers. And then, the lack of male influence quite strongly affects the formation of the child’s personality. What do I want to say? Mom is called to protect, protect and care. The point is that it is difficult for a mother's heart to watch her son's risky actions. Very often you can hear from your mother: “Don’t interfere, otherwise...”, “Don’t touch, otherwise...”, “Behave calmly...”. A mother protects a spoiled child who dangerously climbs a tree or fence. Or if the child nevertheless climbed and fell, then the mothers lamented, attributing universal grief to the broken knee. And they are immediately prohibited from continuing such actions. Mom protects. Dad is ready to react differently. He simply says: “Well, get up. Fell, nothing, everything is fine. Try again". And this is not hard-heartedness - this is initiation. Initiation of a man into a man. A woman is not always able to do this. There is also an option when fathers cannot express themselves in such actions, thereby confirming mother’s idea about the total insecurity of this world. These are those cases when a woman is able to somehow devalue and completely stop any actions of her dad. Then the boy gets the feeling that only his mother, that is, a woman, can cope with everything in the world. This is sad, in my opinion. Mom most often, as it turns out, intimidates her son with her reaction. Still, this is not yet an adult man, but a male child. He believes his mother that everything he did was terrible. Both the abrasion and the sensation of pain are true confirmation of this. So, the consequences of such care are an instilled fear of life. Inability to do something on your own. Lack of initiative. It's quite a burden for a grown man to believe that life is scary. Dear mothers, allow your little boys to show some initiative. That is, if he climbed a tree and fell, it was painful, sad, but not a disaster. Of course, test the safety, make sure everything is fine, but is it worth demonstrating that everything that happened is so terrible if you only see a scratch? It’s good if there is a father in the family, when you can still delegate masculine things to men. But, if there is no half, to initiate boys, turn to the male sex of your family. Help your children grow into men. Lately, I see more and more how dads walk with children, especially boys. I am pleased with such a male sacrament. All of Mom’s broken elbows and knees will heal at home, but trying to overcome herself is the main task. So dear mothers, we care about our children, but we don’t always think about whom we care about more. All our actions have consequences, so let's think about how we sometimes scare our children with our care. Welcome to the training for “Wise Parents”. Related articles: Personality of the parent and the child The baby is watching Communication with children Responsibility. Consistency in upbringing. Parable for parents.