wrote: “filling the levels” of the following unique “containers” (not according to Bion, but it’s possible with him!)) For Men: 1. Level of aspirations (in a relationship, in a couple) 2. Level of grievances...... wrote: For Women: Level of aspirations (in a relationship, in a couple) 2. Level of grievances...... We continue what we started in https://www.b17.ru/article/360028/ Level of claims (in a relationship, in a couple) - readiness to act for the right to own something, a declaration of rights to possession. True, the main “actions” of claims are carried out in dreams, even and according to the rule “we write two, three in our minds”! Claims, in themselves, can be the fruit of armchair fantasies or other people's suggestions. Mom’s, for example, or propaganda of different structures. Claims are also characterized by direction: individual, pair, group (micro-society), public (macro-society). Hierarchy “fantasy ----> dreamy ----> intentional ----> preserved/ protected" - I think many of my colleagues know. If anything, ask right here! Individual claims are accepted, rejected, devalued or supported in pairs. They are not the most common sources of conflict. But - there are such. An example of individual conflicts: the wife wants to work and make a career, the husband is against it, he is a super-patriarchal or a despot. Or: the wife wants two children, the husband - five. But it is not for him to give birth, only to plan, and this is already an INDIVIDUAL Feminine. If she gives in, and he does not earn money and support the children, this is both a couple and a group level of violated claims. Paired claims are the essence of “marriage”, as a synonym for marriage makers, but in syntonic couples they are a powerful source of love experiences! The bulk of the conflicts are here!!! Conflicting claims: for power in the family, for the budget, for washing dishes and floors, for taking out the trash , for appearance, level of health, justification and rejection of habits, addictions, vices. Range of sexual continuity. Models of sex. Religious views and zeal. Syntons: together and at the same time they go through life. They are not burdened by the Merger, observing its periodicity (a complex issue is solved intuitively without the slightest stress!) They have a common goal. If they admit it - a common enemy. Common children and a common “Big Family”, but this is “according to taste” and traditions. Completely denied by “Assertiveness according to Manuel J. Smith”, with which the author does not agree! Group claims: - in the family, when there are children, and the family is a “flock.” - in the “Big Family” - if there is such an education. - in a group of relatives who are not united by joint farming and place of residence. - in other groups that have a “family” character, clannishness. For example, who is the leader of the family unit, who is the “savior”, and who is the “scapegoat/outcast”, “favorite”, “squire/servant”, “elder woman”, “elder”. Each of the significant persons claims special attention, respect, leadership of something/someone, etc. There are also a lot of conflicts. Rare syntony. But here there is a simple remedy: separation, separation, authorization of a new family. Protracted conflicts here are preferably resolved by REORGANIZING the structure of family education, but not by individual psychotherapy. Social aspirations - readiness to act to achieve a high level in society, to occupy a competitive or secret niche. To achieve Power, prosperity, influence, an imaginary level of security (the main basic need of a healthy person, distorted in paranoiacs and psychotics) A high level of social aspirations requires large personal, family, and group resources. Alluring, frightening, risky. That says it all! Conflict for the same reasons as individual, family, and group levels combined! Saves: often a high level of social aspirations is due to schizophrenia, paranoia or ASD. You can get by with medications. In addition to the scheme “Fantasy ---> Dream ---> Intention ---> Action ----> Conservation” – in describing the LEVEL of aspirations, you can use the scheme that came from the Practical Psychology of their experimental models and +79781004249