"Does he love me... Or does he not love me?..." If this describes the situation and how you feel in your current relationship, it's time to gain clarity to make sure you're not wasting your time with this person. "He's Not You" A partner who struggles with physical discomfort, anxiety, depression, insecurity, or other negative states and emotions may withdraw from the relationship, at least in the short term. Here are a few signs to look out for: 1. Demanding more personal time. A partner who finds excuses to take a break from the relationship, to hibernate or take a break from the relationship, explains it this way: he wants to spend time alone. But why? This may be due to emotional problems or stress that have nothing to do with you. By asking a few non-judgmental and non-blaming questions, you can encourage your partner to reveal the main source of the desire to take a break.2.Irritability. If you feel like you're getting on your partner's nerves or have to tiptoe around to avoid conflict, it's wise to look for the source of the behavior. Your partner may attribute the loss of interest to a reluctance to develop the relationship. But first, make sure that your partner is not just suffering from stress, situational or hormonal imbalance, acute or chronic pain, which, as we all know, can really cause severe irritability. Whatever the explanation, being patient with a partner who is temporarily acting unusually harsh or hysterical can help you determine whether this is just an occasional occurrence or indicates a deeper problem in the relationship. Acknowledging stress due to work responsibilities, family pressure, physical problems, or other external events will also reflect your support. Avoidance of intimacy. Before automatically suspecting your partner's infidelity, consider insecurity. Emotional mood swings can cause feelings of worthlessness and unlovability, which creates a fear of rejection. Sometimes these feelings are completely justified. Physical and psychological health problems that may arise from dieting, weight gain, body changes, or taking pills can cause some people to avoid regular physical intimacy in their relationships, just like people Don't approach your partner after a workout until they've taken a shower, or after a cigarette until they've chewed mint gum) Finally, consider all of your partner's "love languages" before jumping to conclusions. Your partner may have legitimate reasons to (temporarily) avoid physical contact that have nothing to do with losing interest in the relationship or in you. By trading your rose-colored glasses for reading glasses, you can gain a clearer view of your relationship through an objective lens, which can increase relationship confidence and satisfaction.