She goes outside to walk the dog in a great mood. She likes her old jacket, which keeps her warm. But then she meets her classmate, who dashingly drives up in an expensive car and, looking at her, says: It’s time to start taking care of yourself. It's not a girl. And everything inside breaks down. she returns home and doesn't want anything. Begins to doubt himself. He looks at his jacket and decides to get rid of it immediately. He always knew that he was a good programmer. And then at the next meeting, an envious competitor suddenly made a speech in which he gave himself and many of those present the right to doubt him as a professional. He left the meeting room with his head hanging low. He didn’t know where to go, and in the evening he decided to quit. She was a diligent mother. Three children - and she is always in high spirits. Always ready to do anything for their happiness. But the son grew up, and at the age of 15 he said that he was always embarrassed by his mother, that she always looked ridiculous with her smile, and never understood what was best for him. And she didn't want to smile anymore. What's this all about? About dependence of oneself on others? - Yes. About linking self-esteem to some business? -Yes. This is about the fact that you do not have stable self-esteem, and rely on the assessment of yourself by others. Who are the judges? Those who have given themselves the right to say out loud what they think. Put yourself higher, evaluate others. And you - you’re just used to playing other people’s games called: I’m worse than you, and with this I’ll help you become better than me! This is such a disgusting game for you! Your life is going down the drain while you hand over the power to everyone to grade you and convince you that you are bad. Why they need this is clear! But why do you need this? And if you have become comfortable in this skin of an eternal victim, then this article is not for you. But if you hate yourself in this, you conduct nightly dialogues that interfere with sleep with those with whom you did not allow them to talk during the day - then it’s time, my friend, to get on with your life. And may God not give you a super figure, a face from the cover, but he gave you more - your individuality, dissimilarity, and, in the end, charisma, which will attract discerning connoisseurs. He gave you everything, and there is only one thing you need to acquire for yourself - the courage to bear it all with dignity. The thing is that once you decided that you were weak. And the weak need assessment from the outside. Plus a bonus - the strong want to communicate with the weak. Kings need retinues! And the retinue is You!!!! Well, take it and carry it! Just the decision to be like this will give you strength. Only one decision will show the right path. So finally decide that you are brave. And be brave.