“Loves” - “does not love”? How often do we ask ourselves this question, don’t we? We all want to be loved. We all want happiness. And without love, what is happiness? Sometimes we mistake for love something that is not love. I want to talk about this today. For example, a man charms a girl with compliments, promises and beautiful pictures of a “bright” future together already at the first meeting, but “forgets” to walk her home. Let us remember how many times, under the spell of a gentleman’s charm, we missed such signals, justifying him: “I didn’t think”, “they called me on an important matter” and even with such arguments as: “he has a long way to get”, “no money for a taxi”. So, does a man give you his hand, throws on his jacket if you are cold, invites you to a cafe if you are hungry, etc. We remember that love is, first of all, not words, but actions. And now, finally, we come to that cherished phrase by which you can definitely say that a man does not love you. But since it is considered romantic, many girls long to hear it. Here it is: “I need you”! Remember this phrase, be wary when you hear it! It is better to immediately clarify the context in which it is pronounced. What is this phrase about, if you analyze it? It is about the needs of the one who pronounces it! Who are you in this scheme? Right! An object to satisfy his needs! How romantic and exciting does such a phrase sound now? By the way, it can, ironically, accompany a marriage proposal. Then it’s not difficult to guess what role your chosen one is inviting you to play. Did you guess it? I'll give you a hint. This phrase sometimes has the addition: “I can’t live without you,” which for some reason is also considered the “peak” of love! But in fact, we women are necessary = our children need them, and very young children cannot live without their mother, because a mother is the whole world for a child. Now draw an analogy. A happy marriage is a partnership of equals, where everyone gives and takes approximately 50/50. A marriage under the slogan: “I need you, I can’t live without you” is a model of a symbiotic relationship between a baby and a mother, in which everyone will feel dissatisfied. Finally, I would like to remember the psychologist Erich Fromm, who in his magnificent book “The Art of Loving” says that love includes knowledge, care and responsibility. In a relationship, you need to gradually get to know the person, take care of him and take your share of responsibility for the relationship: 50×50! If anyone agrees or found it useful, please leave a comment ❤️