Good afternoon, Dear Friends! We continue the topic of creating and building relationships. As I mentioned at the end of yesterday’s article, which can be found here, sometimes a man or woman enters into a relationship and for them their chosen one seems so perfect , an ideal person. “Well, good, well, great!” - you may say, “Is this bad?” Yes, there are also pitfalls in this, since in this idealization of the other we can cherish our secret hopes. What kind of hopes are these? Yes, hopes that the other will help resolve some internal problem, that the other will help to finally find happiness, will be an internal support, and so on. There is a point here that after discovering the fact that our partner is the same person as ourselves, a person who has weaknesses and some problems, we may face disappointment. At first they were fascinated by something, and then, when faced with reality, they were disappointed. Well, and, of course, we will face all the problems that arise from this: discontent, quarrels, breakdowns in relationships... And here it is important to understand that harmony with others is possible only if it is achieved by us with ourselves first queue. What is important for this? Yes, a lot of things. Perhaps a whole therapy. Defending your borders; understanding your desires; distinguishing your emotions; self-confidence and self-confidence (of course, we don’t work with everything directly, it all consists of many factors); the ability to accept oneself; working through the problems of the past - all this, and perhaps much more, are important components of not only individual happiness, but also happy relationships. It is important to start. It is important not to leave your life, its development, the development of your personality and other things for later. It's important to start now. Tomorrow, it’s trivial, may not even exist. Maybe it’s just time to sign up for therapy that has been put off for so long? After all, here you can discover in a safe environment what is preventing you from building close relationships. One of the work options that seems to be automatically “hardwired” into therapy is the relationship between the therapist and the client. And here it doesn’t matter what it is, for example, a woman and a woman, a man and a man. We build relationships with everyone approximately alone, and some basic problems will definitely be revealed during therapeutic work. In the therapeutic relationship between the therapist and the client, what usually happens in the client's relationships in life will manifest itself. And then you can work with this right here and now. Thank you for your attention! I look forward to your responses! If you liked the material, please click on “Say thanks”! In order not to miss interesting things, subscribe to my publications! And please share the material on social networks! :) Sign up for a consultation:+ 7 - 9 6 5 - 3 1 7 - 5 6 - 1 2-