Repetition of the situation of betrayal indicates that you have not learned the lesson in the previous stages. It is an illusion that having the experience of previous relationships, you can build new ones better. New novels usually end the same way. We are not becoming wiser and with enviable persistence we step on the same rake. If the relationship ends badly: If you persistently do not see the real person, you become enchanted and make the wrong choice (you need psychological vigilance, hearing); There is no awareness of your own worth; There is not enough self-love next to partner. In a couple, most likely, you live by the interests and needs of your loved one, forgetting about yourself; There are expectations of incredibly great love and at the same time the fear that you will be used, betrayed, hurt, abandoned, left... If you are in a relationship and everything is in order with your choice of partner, pay attention to whether you yourself are pushing your partner away out of the blue, aren’t you blaming him for something that he didn’t even think about, aren’t you perceiving his actions and words exclusively in a negative light. Therefore, everything listed above is nothing more than an unconscious need to live negative stories from past experience. This means that you will perceive others in such a way that one day it will again lead to a break even in the best relationships and the most loving person. The fact is that it is very difficult to remove the need to live through Negative stories (scenarios). We need internal, long-term and quite hard work. There are several ways how this can be done faster: Explore your relationship with your parents and understand that all the relationships that we live in our adult lives are nothing more than an internal desire to relive emotions from childhood that we experienced in relationships with mom and dad. This means that it is necessary to let go of childhood grievances, emotional traumas, and, if possible, find an excuse for parents (their non-participation, detachment, coldness, dislike, etc.) in your soul. This work can be done independently, but it’s better with a professional psychologist, a mentor, a person who has already successfully resolved this problem and knows how to do it. Reconsider your personal beliefs about love, relationships, men/women Connect love not with coldness, pain and rejection, fears and betrayal - all that An adult is looking for something from his childhood in another (note that he is not looking for love, but for everything that he lived in his parents’ house, as a negative experience). And with warmth, participation, reliability, joy, support, tenderness, kindness, acceptance, etc. For this you need AT LEAST ONCE! gain the experience of true love, acceptance and respect, take the attention that you lacked in childhood... We do this in our courses - through special practices we live the experience of accepting ourselves. This is already enough to get a “vaccination against unloving relationships” FOR LIFE! Without receiving the experience of acceptance, we go into relationships to close our own deficits. Therefore, we fall into dependent relationships and come out of them with huge losses, broken hearts, wasted years of life... But the relationship still doesn’t work out. And the round of new relationships will not be happy unless you specifically work on it... Thus, it is necessary to reconsider the very concept of “love” and connect it with such concepts as trust, warmth, intimacy, understanding, sensitivity, tenderness, support and etc. And to receive additional love through directly living the experience of unconditional acceptance. This requires time and good work on oneself. And only then positive changes will begin to appear and appropriate partners will appear for a new task - happy and long-term relationships. I recommend working systematically when solving this problem at several levels of change: Changing beliefs about yourself, about your value, about love, about men and women; Letting go of negative experiences, feelings that were not experienced in childhood, and which you are faced with with enviable regularity now - this is the fear of losing a partner, all kinds of grievances, anxiety, mistrust, any!