Happily ever after or unhappily ever after... or why people don't get divorced even when they want to. I grew up in one of those families where mom and dad live together, this is their first marriage and they celebrate anniversaries that begin with the number 3. But even in elementary school, I was surrounded by children whose parents were divorced. And the older we got, the fewer two-parent families remained. And at the same time, there are many families who continue to maintain relationships despite difficulties. Here we’ll talk about them, why? Reasons for maintaining relationships: 1. Both are happy with everything - it’s hard to believe, but this happens especially if in a marriage both partners have the same values.2. So much effort has been invested in the relationship that it is somehow not advisable to start a new relationship. This is especially true for those who have been in a relationship for a very long time (everyone has their own “long”, but, as a rule, it is 10+ years).3. There are no worthy alternatives. Yes, it’s easier to leave a job you don’t like when you have somewhere to go. This is how many people approach relationships.4. And most importantly, secondary benefit. What is the secondary benefit: I tell everyone that I’m not getting a divorce because the children need a complete family, but I actually don’t want to go to work. People, by nature, are selfish (you can’t deny this) and think first of all about themselves. Whenever I hear that someone is not getting a divorce because of a child, I see a running line on his forehead: “I don’t want to work, but my husband provides for me and doesn’t force me to work.” After all, if they divorce, she will have to arrange her life, look for an apartment and a job. The secondary benefit may be to avoid having to face someone else because of a divorce; so as not to change your place of residence; so as not to look for someone who will now repair the crane and car; so as not to think about everyday life (after all, the wife has always done this). I think that in a particular case, you can add a dozen more reasons, but these are the most popular. Remember that the desire to save the marriage is wonderful if both want it and are ready to work on it relationships. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, don’t be afraid that it won’t work out the first time. Be sincere with your partner, don’t lie to yourself or the person who trusts you.