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We all experience different situations in life. But sometimes it happens that both an adult and a child face real grief. This is the very moment when it seems that life is over and we seem to be wandering through a labyrinth in search of a new stimulus in life and comprehension of what is happening. Adults often experience confusion and confusion and, as a rule, have no idea not only how to behave towards a child who has lost someone close to them, but also how and how acutely he experiences grief. What kind of dialogues “in the labyrinth of the unknown” should they be about and what should they be about? What distinguishes children’s grief? When a family experiences a loss, the child needs to see it and be able to express it with everyone else. Not only should a child’s feelings not be ignored, but it is important to recognize their right to grieve. Even if there is a mentally disabled child in the family, one should never underestimate his ability to understand what is happening, as well as the depth of his emotions. He, like other children, must be included in the experiences of the whole family, and he needs additional signs of love and support. You cannot try to pretend that nothing has happened and life goes on as usual. We all need time to get used to living without a loved one. This does not reduce emotional distress and does not guarantee against unexpected and tragic reactions, but it does help prevent the emergence of deep fears that can lead to severe psychological problems many years later. An adult (parent, teacher, guardian) needs to have the following information: 1. The child’s grief is ! Sometimes a parent is so absorbed in his grief that he does not notice the child’s grief or underestimates it. 2. The child’s grief has an extension over time. The loss of one of the parents cannot be overcome by a child in a short time. 3. The child needs to be told about the death immediately. Usually this should be done by the other parent (a close person whom the child trusts). 4. Child grief is different from that of an adult. An adult who loses a spouse loses a partner, a companion, a friend and a loved one. The child loses a protector, teacher, educator, role model. Therefore, he will react differently. 5. The child needs a second parent (close person) as a role model. Although the experience of losing a loved one is different for a parent and a child, the parent or loved one can be a helpful role model in how they cope with the death. It is advisable to openly express your thoughts and feelings. 6. The child cannot take on the burden of the parent’s grief. Although the child must see the grief of the other parent, he cannot somehow help bear this grief or be any kind of substitute for the deceased. 7. For young children, there are most often three main questions. An adult needs to hear them and answer them: Did I cause this death? Will this ever happen to me? Who will take care of me now? Be honest with the child. Find a place where your baby will be calm, comfortable and familiar. (For example, do you remember that your dad really loved motorcycles? So, today dad lost control and crashed... Dad is no longer with us...). If someone close to the child suffers from an incurable disease, you need to tell the child about it. Children's fears and fantasies usually manifest themselves much more seriously if they have not been told the truth. When the child realizes what happened, he will begin to experience grief. At this moment, you must prepare the child as much as possible for the moment of farewell to the deceased and his funeral. The child cannot be forced to participate in the funeral, but he should be given a choice. The presence of a child is desirable; during this difficult time, the family should be together to make it easier to endure grief together in the future. It is advisable to tell the child in advance how the ceremony will take place (sequence of events). If cremation is used, the process must be explained to the child. You can, for example, say: “The body in a very hot fire turns into soft ash. This special ashes.

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