From the author: A child brings a wonderful song of silence into a mother’s life. From the long hours spent near him, when he does not demand, but simply lives, from the thoughts with which his mother diligently envelops him, depends on what she will become, her life program, her strength and creativity. In the silence of contemplation, with the help of a child, she grows to the insights that the work of an educator requires. She draws not from books, but from herself. Nothing could be more valuable. Ya. Korczak. “How to love a child.” We love unconditionally. When I think about parental love and the father-child relationship in general, I immediately remember the heart-tugging and, for those unaccustomed to living with feelings, a little pretentious work by Janusz Korczak “How to Love a Child”... We all sincerely love our children, but for some reason We express our love by praising them only for their actions and actions, often for good grades, neatness, etc. It turns out that only if the baby behaves as expected are we ready for love. Not everyone understands how to tell him “I love you” just like that, simply because he exists. There are more or less options with babies and preschoolers. As for schoolchildren, and even more so teenagers, we often see a negative reaction from them to their parents’ expression of tender feelings. Such children were not taught sincerity, that the manifestation of feelings is natural and wonderful in the first place. It is clear that there are various moments in life when we are tired, busy with our own business, sick or simply not in the mood. I am not taking away your right to personal experiences. And, if you are busy, for example, it is better to honestly admit your feelings to your child and not start a game or other activity with him, forcing yourself, simply out of obligation. Children, absolutely all children, feel falsehood. Your sincerity will be an excellent example for a child in his own childhood, then adult life, to act in accordance with his feelings, to live in harmony with himself. Therefore, if you are experiencing a strong surge of love for your child now, show it, do not expect a good grade from school, a clean room, or taking first place in sports competitions. When a child does not receive enough parental love (especially maternal love) in childhood, he grows into an adult incapable of experiencing love. The task of parents is to teach him this by their own example of unconditional love! Let your children grow up to be mentally healthy individuals capable of strong feelings!