There are situations when it is difficult for yourself to tighten the screws and change the situation. That's why we ask for help. Someone else from the country always knows better. By reflecting, you can show a different point of view and suggest other solutions. Just listen. And during the next story the situation suddenly becomes more clear. You can’t see yourself completely, and that’s why you need a mirror. To have somewhere to look. This mirror can be another person, a friend, a relative. Of course, they are not objective, they know the person well, and they already have an assumption of the outcome (based on their personal vision). Sometimes you can’t cure yourself because you know too much, and having reached a certain point, the mind turns on, and it also turns on resistance. He knows where we are going and what will happen in the end. You ask yourself questions and answer them yourself. And he’s not always ready for the truth. Therefore, the process stops. It's difficult to help yourself, it's just inconvenient. Otherwise, dentists would treat their teeth, hairdressers would cut their own hair, surgeons would perform operations. Small manipulations - yes. But it’s beautiful, complex and high quality - someone is needed. Or even not alone, but with an assistant. I know very well what the dentist is doing to me at the moment, I ask you to tell me. And I could treat my own teeth myself)), but I don’t. And I'm a psychologist. I can help myself)), but I’m going to another psychologist for help. Because that's how it works. I see myself through another. Who knows where to look, how to ask a question, when to ask it, and he understands what is happening to me. And I’m also beginning to fully understand what’s wrong with me now. Of course, up to a certain point you can make your life easier. Then you sit down and figure it out as far as possible. You watch, study the process, reasons, solutions. Each has its own tasks and pace of solution. Turning to someone for help and advice - this also requires strength and desire to figure it out and face the truth. This is far from being a weakness, as some people believe, and therefore they remain stuck in their problem. They think that it is a strong act to remain in the problem, to stew in it, to complicate it. But telling someone is whining and for weaklings, and they can handle it better themselves, and they are cool. This silence just speaks of a lack of trust in people, in oneself. They do not believe that someone can solve their problem and know better than them. They have a special problem. They believe that they are very cool and will figure it out on their own, but in the end they bring themselves to a more complex state. You know it like in the movies: “cut to hell without waiting for peritonitis.” Don’t wait until you are completely overwhelmed, look for ways to solve your situations, open up, trust, learn to trust, choose, feel, allow yourself to correct your difficulties and make your life easier. With love Elena Chernysheva+79219186422