Children's jealousy is a well-known phenomenon, especially in families with more than one child. From an objective point of view, jealousy represents a competitive struggle for a “place in the sun” of parental love. It will never be possible to completely avoid this. It is worth noting that jealousy is most pronounced in families with two children (according to my observations); with an increasing number of children, jealousy fades into the background. In large families, children adapt to the situations of the birth of a new child, and therefore there is much less jealousy. If a third child appears, and so on, then this situation ceases to be stressful for the older ones. But if one competitor appears, then this innovation for the elder may be in the nature of constant stress and tension associated with jealousy. Well, let's be honest: some parents, through their actions, can incite jealousy between their children. Therefore, a lot depends on their behavior and how trusting the contact is formed between them and the children. In order to ease the tension from the emerging rivalry between children, it is important not to compare them with each other, not to use one as an example and not to use them as an anti-example other, it is also not worth “bringing them to a common denominator”, i.e. try to impose on them the same activities, hobbies, games, etc. Each child is a separate personality, and not “two in one.” Keep in mind that for an older child there is a period of adaptation to the situation of the appearance of a brother or sister. This period, in different studies, takes from 6 to 9 months. It is very important at this time not to dissolve in the baby and not to forget about the older one, not to tell him: “go away, it’s not your time,” “you’re already big, be patient,” “don’t you see? I’m working with the younger one,” etc. I’ll even say this: during this period you need to devote more time to talking with your elder. For example, the little one is sleeping, and at this time you are talking with the older one or playing with him, at the same time letting him know that he is very dear and important to you. Yes, yes, often children need to be told about this... Well, and of course, do not take toys from the older one for subsequent transfer to the younger one. These are his things! And if he deems it necessary, he will give them as a gift. If it so happens that you become an arbitrator between children, but do not even think about resolving the conflict in someone else’s favor. Especially if you didn’t witness how it all began. Offer to sit down and talk about everything, listen to both sides. Tell them that you understand their feelings - “I see that you are angry.” Recognize the seriousness of the situation, do not discount the causes of the conflict. For example, you can invite both to write a list of options for solving the situation, and then discuss with them which option is the most successful. Then praise, hug, kiss both. How quickly our children will overcome jealousy and begin to truly love and appreciate each other depends on our behavior. Take care of yourself! Sabirov Salavat. My Telegram channel: #YourpersonalpsychologistIf you have any additional questions, you can always contact the author of this article for individual advice at: +79050620750