The problem of relationships between parents and adult children is now more relevant than ever. And these problems change over time. So, if in the novel I.S. Turgenev, written in 1860-1861, the reasons for the loss of contact between parents and adult children were associated with ideological differences, denial of moral values ​​by young people, then after almost 2 centuries, the problem is often of a material nature, or more precisely, housing. This is how it is shown in the play “Mother-in-Law with a Surprise,” which I saw at the Comedy Theater in Moscow. The plot, I believe, is not so rare nowadays. After marriage, a 34-year-old son-in-law moves in with a woman who raised her daughter alone in a one-room apartment. And the mother-in-law, of course, is not happy with this fact. She insults him, calling him “a pathetic, spineless creature, unable to provide his wife with her own housing.” Thus, the mother-in-law acts as the Tormentor in the Karpman triangle, insulting and humiliating her son-in-law. In her showdown with her son-in-law, the mother-in-law involves her daughter in the role of Rescuer, who does not want to hear the constant showdown between her mother and her husband. But still, in this story, the role of the Victim, in which the son-in-law plays, is of greatest interest to me. If we consider this social role from the perspective of unfavorable conditions of socialization, then a son-in-law who does not want to solve everyday issues on his own and moves into his mother-in-law’s one-room apartment can be called a latent victim. He cannot be considered a potential victim of unfavorable socialization conditions, because These include disabled people, young and minor children, and other categories of people who cannot be independent. But how does the latent Victim behave when he settles in the territory of his Tormentor? The son-in-law actively defends himself against the attacks of his mother-in-law, who demands that he himself resolve the housing issue of his family. Yes, it's a comedy. But the jokes that the son-in-law makes are similar to bullying on his part: “Mother-in-law, I dreamed about you. I thought I wouldn’t wake up,” “The rules are your whims and nonsense,” “Markovna, you’re just a werewolf. Hit the ground - the princess. It hit me a second time - the toad." So, when young people, having fallen in love with each other, decide to get married or create their own family, it is necessary that the approach to this decision be deliberate and the main components of living together be discussed in advance: About harmony in the family: key issues that need to be discussed before marriage https://www.b17.ru/article/o_soglasii_v_seme_klyuchevie_voprosi_k/However, partners do not always understand the need for informed decision-making. Or maybe they take a childish position, hoping that there will be no problems or that the problems will somehow be solved by themselves. But living together shows that problems can only be solved if they are solved. About the influence of the subpersonal role occupied with a partner on the development of relationships https://www.b17.ru/article/o_vliyanii_zanimaemoi_sublichnostnoi_rol/The play “Mother-in-Law with a Surprise” raised a problem that arose in the Mother-Daughter-Son-in-law relationship after the son-in-law moved into mother-in-law's apartment. I liked the performance itself and the acting. But I’m interested in the question - if a son-in-law moves into his mother-in-law’s apartment, then who is to blame for the fact that their relationship does not work out? The mother-in-law who let her adult daughter's family live with her? A son-in-law who lives in a 1-room apartment with his mother-in-law? I provide consultations all over the world, make an appointment by phone: 8-977-121-47-10, whatsapp, telegram, phone: 8-965-177-92-43, skype bagira2138, personal page b17 https://www.b17.ru /bondarenko-ta/