From the author: This post is another chance for many parents to stop and stop using physical violence against children. Any violence, because everything that you drive into your children like nails, crush with suppression and humiliation, will remain there forever. Children who were constantly beaten by both parents throughout their lives in the parental family are murdered children. In them, in these people, a child was killed. It doesn’t matter for what reason they beat, from a bad grade in a notebook to “getting under your arm,” it doesn’t matter whether it was daily or once a week, it doesn’t matter “for education” or for pranks, one thing is important, constant violence was committed against them. But According to all the laws of survival, we must leave the place where we suffer, we are hurt and scared. There are children who left their parents and their family at the first opportunity, and there are those who could not. Those who left and found their pack by escaping have a greater chance of survival of the inner child due to their aggression as a resource. Those who remained in the family, since it was impossible and nowhere to leave, left their body as a source of suffering and pain, rejecting it as a sensitive object receiving beatings and suffering from them. Both types of children lived in hatred and anger, fear and shame, but in the first, this manifests itself towards external objects as sources of violence. For the second, all negative feelings are directed against the feeling body and what is stored in the body, feelings, emotions, soul, spirit, and so on. The first type of children strives to become stronger, more successful, due to hatred and anger directed outward, while the second type has hatred and anger directed at themselves, at the one who feels and suffers, the body and the child. Therefore, for the latter, the chances of becoming successful, strong, active, living a normal, active life are minimal. The former, without sparing themselves, go straight towards the goal, killing and using themselves as a resource, the latter, without sparing themselves and their strength, kill themselves with any desire to go towards success, happiness, life. In life they differ radically, some are obsessed with success, the other are obsessed with self-destruction, but both types of children will converge at one point, if they live to see it, in a midlife crisis, where both realize that they are not happy at all, they are dead and see no point in moving on in life . In constantly beaten children, psychosomatics are off the charts, various types of addictions, chronic diseases, pain of unknown etiology. Only long-term therapy in which the psychologist and the client will successfully come together in an alliance, where a person can trust and open what he has lived, where an endless change of techniques will be used , can give a result in which self-destruction will be stopped, meaning, hope and faith in oneself, in life, in the future will be found. Nothing else works here, no articles and conversations, motivation and stimulation will help stop the process of self-destruction until we come into close contact with the child living in the renounced body and soul of a person. If the child was not physically beaten, but “beaten” morally and emotionally, subjected to no less severe methods of violence, the destruction will not be so fatal and tragic, but very identical to the path of physically beaten people. Sometimes they are more difficult to correct due to their diffuse form of violence. “They didn’t beat, but they constantly humiliated, ridiculed, shamed, I understand, they wanted what was best” - this is such a blurred understanding, or rather not the understanding of a person who was subjected to other forms of violence in childhood and adolescence, but after a while began to realize their problems in life. If the child was not beaten, humiliated, ignored, but at the same time kept at a constant distance “not to be overloved, not to be spoiled”, thereby motivating him for the best, he was not killed, but he was made a constant lack of gratitude and praise, confessions addressed to you. These children will spend their entire lives looking for recognition and stroking in the eyes of others. I can only say one thing: it is impossible, by definition, to fall in love with a child. There is never too much love, there is a lot of things we replace love with - time, gifts, control, guardianship, mistrust,.