Part 1 Often in my practice I encounter difficulties with a client answering the question: “How do you want to?”. I can assume that in popularized psychology you have come across the concept of “inner child”; everyone. This is part of our psyche. This “child” speaks to us in simple language: “I want” or “I don’t want.” Of course, we all come from childhood and the experience gained during this period influences our adult life. Thus, we seemed to put what happened to us in childhood into a kind of piggy bank and entered adulthood with such wealth. I believe that getting to know our own inner child is very important for each of us. Remember what simple things you enjoyed when you were little? What pictures remain in your memory? What did you dream about? What made you sad? The answers to these questions will help you see this little child who knows exactly what he wants or doesn’t want. Having gotten to know yourself in this way, you begin to enjoy the right to your life, which is exactly what you want. My little Ira loves baking with herbal tea, traveling, reading, she is very sad when they offend her neighbor, when she sees injustice and does not like cabbage cutlets. Today is a cup herbal tea will help me feel entitled to the life I want. Part 2 How often do we tell ourselves “should” or “should”? And have you ever wondered with whom you are conducting this internal dialogue? In psychology, this voice is called the parental voice. “Inner Parent” is a part of our psyche, which includes rules of behavior, stereotypes, attitudes - everything that we took from our parents. Have you ever wondered where this voice came from? And what kind of person is he: demanding, controlling or protective, caring? When the Controlling Parent turns on in us, we can engage in “self-searching,” “self-criticism,” and even those around us can feel that we are trying to educate them, saying “should” or “shouldn’t.” "When the Inner Nurturing Parent begins to speak, it is about the ability to care, accept, observe life values ​​and follow them. Before raising your children, you should try to first raise an Inner Parent for yourself. This can be done quite simply: - stop devaluing and constantly correct yourself - take care of yourself, create comfort and coziness - remember your interests, prioritize them over the interests of others - and, finally, recognize your right to “be who you are”, thereby you will begin to enjoy the right to one’s own life. Part 3 As soon as “CAN” and “possibility” appear in our speech, this means that another part of the psyche is turned on - the “Inner Adult”. The “adult” in us is an assessment of the situation, one’s capabilities, logic and thoughtfulness of decisions, a willingness to act wisely, without unnecessary emotions. In this position, we communicate on equal terms with others, earn money for our dreams and make plans based on our own experience and opinions. Once upon a time, we all strived to become adults as quickly as possible. It seemed, well, when I become an adult, I will definitely do whatever I want and no one will forbid me from doing this or say that I MUST. But then some disappointment sets in, because the Inner Parent and the Inner Adult do not allow the Inner Child to go free." breaking Bad". For example, we WANT to go to the sea, there is no material OPPORTUNITY, which means we NEED to work. These three parts of our psyche allow us to be in harmony, balance, maintain integrity, gain independence (choose what suits you). Then the desires, opportunities and responsibility (Child, Adult and Parent) allow you to fully enjoy the right to life, namely, to be able to answer the questions to yourself: “What do you want? Are there any possibilities? And what needs to be done for this?»