To jump out of alcohol games, at the level of behavior you need to remember that alcoholism is a chronic disease, and therefore: do not consider the disease as a family shame; Don’t blackmail using expressions like “If only you really loved me.” Such appeals to the conscience of an alcoholic only aggravate the feeling of guilt, without essentially changing anything. This is the same as saying: “If you loved me, you wouldn’t have caught a cold”; don’t treat an alcoholic like a naughty child, because you wouldn’t do this if he was suffering from some other illness;-- Don’t grumble, don’t moralize, don’t lecture. Most likely, the alcoholic himself knows very well what you are trying to do to him, you are only provoking him to further deception and forcing him to make promises that he is not able to fulfill; do not accept promises that you do not believe. Don't let yourself be deceived and don't pretend to believe. do not check an alcoholic how much he drank, because you have no chance of finding out about everything; Don’t look for alcoholic stashes, because... you force an alcoholic to look for more secluded places, do not keep alcohol at home and do not pour it into the toilet, this will force the alcoholic to go to extreme measures to obtain it, in the end he will always find an opportunity and a way to get drunk; do not protect the alcoholic from situations where you can offer alcohol, because he must someday learn to refuse; —• do not do anything for an alcoholic that he is able to do himself, do not solve his problems for him, behave in such a way that he himself is responsible for his own actions (unrepaid debts, absenteeism at work, etc.). Only in this way will you give him the opportunity to understand what his drinking has led to; do not demand an instant cure. The process of treatment and recovery for alcoholism is long, relapses of the disease are not excluded; Do not be jealous of the treatment method that the alcoholic has chosen for himself. Many people think that love for home and family is enough to stop drinking. Often, for successful treatment, recovering alcoholics attend AA groups three times a week for 2 hours, go to seminars and trainings on weekends, which causes jealousy and discontent among family members. Here it is appropriate to recall the statement of one woman with alcoholism: “In the first six months sobriety, I went to an AA group every evening and often went to training on weekends. The husband began to say that the group is more important to you than the family. I thought about it and realized that the most precious thing to me is sobriety; if I don’t attend meetings, classes, trainings, then there will be no sobriety, and, therefore, there will be no family. And my husband understood me.” Remember that returning to the same games is easier than doing something new, therefore, in order not to step on the same rake again, you need long-term supportive psychotherapy.