Continued. Start HERE Women who suffer from low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence often contact me. Outwardly these are interesting women, but inside they feel insufficient. This feeling indicates that they lack self-love. Whenever a person feels that he lacks self-confidence and in his abilities, we are dealing with a deficiency of self-love. How to make up for this deficiency? Return to yourself! If you are “not yourself,” then who will you love within yourself?! When your attention is directed outward, your energy is also directed outward. The more and longer you think about others, be outside your own body with your attention, the more you will de-energize yourself. Solution. To make up for the lack of self-love, return to yourself! Literally. Bring your attention back to yourself, directing it inward. “Olga, I already think about myself all day long! But this does not add strength to me and, certainly, does not add love to myself!” If you think about yourself all day long, then this means the next thing is that you are thinking in situations that happened to you in the past or in situations that may happen to you in the future. I dare to suggest that the feelings that accompany this thought process are by no means the most positive. Anxiety, fears, resentment, disappointment, powerlessness - this is what accompanies these thoughts. “Being within yourself” means the following: Contact with your own thoughts in the moment “here and now”; Contact with your physical sensations in the present moment; Contact with your own feelings and emotions in the moment “now”; Contact with the surrounding reality. The first three points guide your attention goes deep into yourself. There you draw strength and confidence, on which self-love is based. Contact with the surrounding reality allows you to be part of this world, without separating from it or shutting yourself off. My voice coach once shared with me a wonderful metaphor that could not be better explains what happens to us when we are “in ourselves”: “Olga, imagine that you are driving a car. Your attention is unfocused. You see what is happening on the road, in front of you and on the sides. And you also seem to start see what your eyes do not see. At the same time, you are relaxed, and your attention is inside you. “If you drive a car, then you are definitely stuck with this state! In the “In Yourself” state, you do not merge with external objects and do not tense up. In it you are relaxed and therefore constantly filled with energy. In it you are not fenced off from the world, but actively interact with it. It makes you open to the world. In a state of “in yourself” you cannot be offended by yourself. You easily forgive yourself for mistakes and shortcomings. And finally, in the state of “in yourself,” you gain inner support, which helps you feel confident. Loving yourself means giving yourself back to yourself! Olga Fedoseeva, I help women love themselves Sign up for a consultation here Online courses “How to put an end to relationships and become free”, “How to become valuable and necessary for him”, “The magic of female sexuality” WITH A DISCOUNT up to 30%