A gift is like a language of love..And gifts, like love languages, are different..For the New Year, the topic of gifts is not at all superfluous =), its relevance increases with each passing day holidays =), just as it is not superfluous in a relationship between two close people who love each other. Henry Chapman in his wonderful book “The Five Love Languages” talks about HOW important it is to speak and know the love language of your partner and HOW almost destroyed marriages when loving people learn each other's LOVE LANGUAGES and begin to communicate in them. One of these languages ​​is “receiving gifts” from a loved one - your partner. I always knew and felt that a gift is a little more than just giving. For me it is always care and attention to the one to whom you give it, the feelings with which you do it... Chapman, to my surprise and delight, reveals this topic even more deeply using examples from his practice of working with married couples - collapsing and recovering relationships in them. Gifts are a visual representation of love. And visual symbols of love are more important to some people than all others. If your partner's primary love language is the language of receiving gifts, then you have a chance to become a skilled giver. This is the easiest love language to learn. A gift is something that you can hold in your hands and say: “Listen, he was thinking about me” or “She was thinking about me.” In order to give someone something, you must first remember it. And the gift is a symbol of these thoughts. If you discover that your spouse's primary love language is the language of receiving gifts, then you may realize that buying a gift for him or her is the best investment you can make. You are investing in your relationship, in filling your loved one's love tank, and with a full love tank, he or she is more likely to return love to you in a language that you can understand. When the emotional needs of both are met, your marriage moves into a completely different dimension. And Chapman also mentions one important gift - the gift of oneself. There is an intangible gift that sometimes speaks louder than any gift you can hold in your hands. I call it the gift of self or the gift of presence. Being there when your spouse needs it sends a very strong message to someone whose primary love language is receiving gifts. Physical presence in times of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give if your spouse's primary love language is the language of receiving gifts. If your spouse's physical presence is important to you, I encourage you to tell him about it. Don't expect him to read your thoughts. If, on the other hand, your spouse tells you, “I really want you here with me tonight, tomorrow, this afternoon,” take it seriously. From your point of view, this may not matter much. But if you do not respond to this request, you may be conveying a message that you did not intend to convey. Almost everything that has ever been written about love points out that the heart of love is the spirit of giving. All five love languages ​​encourage us to give to our spouse, but for some, receiving gifts, visible symbols of love, speaks louder than anything else. You will find specific examples of qualitative changes in relationships in married couples in the book. Based on materials from G. Chapman "The Five Love Languages" Tags: for couples