From the author: A series of articles for further scientific work on family psychology (prenatal period). In the life of every person there comes a period when he would like to do something that in the future it will become its continuation. The time has come for me to make a decision about procreation. I thought for a relatively short time, because I had already been internally prepared for such a turn in life for a long time. At the same time, I have to solve many issues that are popping up at the moment, what is called “on my knees” or “without leaving the cash register.” For example, we need to solve a problem regarding “her peace of mind.” She periodically has fears such as: - the health of the baby. To have the answer to this fear, you need to go with her to all possible doctors and spend time in our clinics. Because a man clearly sees the difference between far-fetched and facts. If the tests are in order and your health is good, then the man will say “everything is fine with you”; - what kind of parents will we be and will we find a common language with the baby. To have an answer to this fear, you need to spend as much time as possible together, showing that you are one family and there is no reason to worry that things might be different. A common language with your baby is a language of participation and support, as well as a language of love and understanding. A father is needed at all stages of a child's life. His health (as one of the important factors) is the calmness of the mother during pregnancy; - the appearance of the expectant mother. This is one of the most common fears, because from childhood it is drilled into your head that you must always look your best. Convince your spouse that she has a more important task than maintaining her goddess-level appearance. Let her know that she is still very attractive and desirable. More tactile sensations and banal “hugs”; - providing for the family. Make plans together and keep your plans open and accessible. Show that you are confident that you can feed your family in any situation; - from global to small (choosing the color of a stroller and buying land for a house). Talk as much as possible about the family's goals and priorities, choose the most important things together, look at strollers, houses, cribs, etc. on the Internet. take the time to participate in all the small (but very important) issues. Look for contact in every issue; - too acute perception of events. It is necessary to protect the expectant mother from all kinds of stress. Stand in her defense and make serious decisions in favor of the peace of the family. At the same time, it is also necessary to protect from subsequent problems of this kind; periodic changes in tastes and desires. It is necessary to understand that the expectant mother really has desires. Do them all if possible. Watermelon ice cream? Fine. Bread only from the oven? You can get this too. Almost all wishes can be fulfilled, you just need to inquire about their availability; - the participation of the father in the life of the unborn child. Communicate with the baby, stroke your spouse’s tummy, in general there are more tactile sensations for mother and baby. Mom must realize that you are also waiting for him, that he is part of your life. When the child arrives, I see my primary task as creating a comfort zone for my wife and child, since my comfort zone is more flexible. In life I wear shoulder straps and know firsthand about hardships and difficulties, but... My wife always supports me. In all my endeavors. It's an amazing symbiosis, and it grows with every moment (when we go to the doctor or spend the weekend together, refusing to go out with friends because she doesn't feel well).