Perhaps you are familiar with the feeling of how your body suddenly turns from absolutely calm into a leaf trembling in the wind, your legs give way or your hands shake, or maybe your voice fails? And no matter how hard we try to control ourselves in this state, the body in conflict betrays excitement and anxiety. Of course, this adds discomfort. What happens to the body? For many people, conflict is stress. And to overcome it, a mobilization reaction is launched in the body: blood vessels constrict so that blood circulates faster, stress hormones are released (adrenaline, cortisol and others), and energy is released. And all this is needed to adapt to unfavorable external factors, in other words, to survive. In nature, we would have a fight or flight response when stressed. But people live through many social stressful situations where we physically neither run nor strike. As a result, the energy that our body has collected is not spent on action and remains in the body. This is how the feeling of shaking appears. But why is conflict stress? Conflict arises when we feel that our interests are being violated. Subconsciously, we can perceive such a threat as so real and dangerous that the body triggers a survival reaction. What to do? - First, it is worth assessing how deadly the conflict situation in which you begin to shake really is for you. Most often, we will see that there is no real threat to life. - Next, it is important to return your attention to the body. Start breathing! I like square breathing. For the first time, you can do it like this: inhale for two counts - hold your breath for two counts, exhale for two counts - hold your breath for two counts. On the second square use 3 counts, on the third 4 counts. Next, breathe in 4 counts, without increasing it. You can use other breathing techniques. - Return to reality! Start mentally describing what objects you see, what shapes and colors they are, touch the surfaces of furniture or clothing, concentrating on the sensations. - When the conflict is prolonged, or occurs at a distance, I like to use an exercise to work with fear. Imagine what is the worst thing in the conflict? What's the worst thing it could end up with for you? And then write what you will do if this happens, how you will act after the consequences occur (5-6 real steps). Our brain fears what it doesn't know! But when you have a plan B, he no longer needs to escalate the situation. If you yourself cannot cope with the emotions and reactions of the body in conflict, contact a specialist! Sometimes our feelings may not be clear to ourselves. It’s good if there is a person next to you who will guide you and support you. But the main thing is to remember, everything is fine with you! Author of the photo in the announcement: Pixel-Shot