Most of all problems concern human relationships, and only through communication can we learn to resolve these problems. Narcissism and socialityHuman beings are social at their core; we are in complex interweavings of social interactions and connections. Being social, at the same time, a person is unique and cannot be replaced; the psychological approach assumes that the individual is no less significant than the collective, which corresponds to the classical maxim “man is the measure of all things.” The problem is resolving the conflict between narcissism and sociality. We have a need for both self-realization and relationships. Each person solves a dilemma - to be accepted, to be pleasant to people, to fit into external circumstances and situations, while maintaining uniqueness, not to lose one’s individuality, i.e. be authentic to yourself. This is the whole problem: how to be yourself and be in a relationship. Resolving this dilemma is not so easy. We are social, we strive for contacts, for interactions, we want to feel involved in groups, communities. It is enough to think about what a life drama it becomes for a person to be unable to find a family, people close in spirit, among whom one can feel accepted, with whom one can share experiences and feelings, and better understand the value of one’s lived experience. Connection with others is the very essence of a person, and separation from other people is one of the most painful experiences. Life consists of a contradiction between our potential and the rules dictated by the environment by which we must live and build relationships. In the process of social formation, a person faces a lot of contradictions; what is happening in reality and his personal meanings may not coincide. Reality may seem unbearable, the truth about yourself and your life may contradict the idea of ​​what is desired, what should be, about goodness, about ideals. And this subjective experience by a person of the unbearability of reality, the unacceptability of a certain truth about himself and his life makes a person flee from reality and from relationships into loneliness, into neuroses, into illness, into skepticism and disappointment. The conflict of narcissism and sociality can only be resolved through human communication. Group analytic psychotherapy provides a safe space for deep communication and self-discovery through interaction with others. Through communication in this safe space, each group member can understand a lot about themselves and others, understand how to free themselves from the captivity of thinking permeated by their own “I”, at the same time not suppress their own authentic experiences, without suppressing themselves, learn to express affects , be spontaneous without disrupting other people and situations. We train the body in the gym, because we understand that an untrained body will not cope with the loads and will not be able to realize its inclinations, and our psyche also needs training in order to be able to cope with complex life tasks - experiences, the ability to develop and express affects, emotional connections and exchanges with other people. To achieve these development goals we need a supportive environment and a safe space. Group psychoanalysis provides this. The goal of group psychoanalytic work is to help participants identify their own buried authentic aspirations and affects, without destroying connections with other people, but, on the contrary, creating satisfactory connections with the group as a whole, with the leader and with each participant individually. It is important to learn to experience events and interactions with people without intricate conceptualizations (abstraction and withdrawal) or unfounded judgment (aggression and devaluation). Human experiences are dialogical in nature, they are always addressed to someone, and in analysis one can discover the addressee of these experiences. To understand ourselves, we need someone, we need dialogue. Group psychoanalytic therapy gives a person the opportunity to externalize these internal dialogues, express himself, and receive feedback.communication, try out more open ways of interaction. This is an opportunity to gain new, more authentic experiences with other people. Only deep human communication can break the circle of individually insoluble internal conflicts that tear a person apart. Group psychoanalysis is a form of group psychotherapy that uses the ideas, principles and methods of psychoanalysis and arose from the interaction of psychoanalysis and social psychology. This type of psychotherapeutic work involves regular meetings of a group of people under the leadership of the group leader - a psychotherapist. This creates a safe space for communication between these people, the purpose of which is to solve psychological problems and difficulties, internal conflicts, learn to build trusting and open relationships, and understand themselves and others. Family stories The first group in which we gain relationship experience is the family, the parent couple. The first contacts with the mother and the family environment are of the deepest importance for the subsequent development of a person. Each person builds his interaction with people in accordance with the internal images of his parents, which were formed in him in early childhood. And, naturally, when coming to a group, a person brings these images of parents (representations), and builds his communication based on these internal representations. Many problems in a person's life, related to both communication and poor functioning, are the result of early emotional disappointments in the family. Most people who join psychotherapeutic groups have had unsatisfactory experiences in their first and most important groups - their parents' families. Luckily, you don't have to have a second childhood to heal this. The analysis group is a metaphor for the family. In the space of group work, traumas of the past are updated and processed; each participant has the opportunity to relive some moments of their life, perceiving them in a new way, to share experiences with the group, to process and soften the pain that prevents them from moving into relationships. As a result, your attitude towards yourself and your life changes, which is the key to positive changes in life. Each participant brings to the group their own family history, their own life drama. And instead of open relationships, instead of really presenting themselves and really moving towards each other, the participants begin to play out certain plots in which there are predetermined roles, they communicate based on unexperienced, undigested childhood experiences, emotions, grievances, based on deeply repressed attitudes about their self-inadequacy. For a person to gain a state of integrity and confidence, it is very important that a positive unconscious image of the parent couple is formed. When this image of a good internal object is established, then there is an opportunity for separation from parental figures and the creation of a satisfying relationship with a partner. A person stops looking for a substitute mother or father in a partner and becomes able to give and receive love. Experiencing the traumatic experience of childhood updated in the group process, realizing its influence, reviewing it, participants learn to realize their own responsibility in what is happening in their lives now, begin to manage themselves better, reduce projections outside of what they do not like, create new forms of interaction with other participants and the group as a whole. Group psychoanalytic therapy is an opportunity to gradually free yourself from this burden of the past. And the more you free yourself from it, the more you clear your inner space, the more you are present in the present, and as a result, life becomes brighter and fuller. How the method of group psychoanalysis (group analysis) works According to Sigmund Freud, the formation of groups has two goals: the fight against the forces of nature (including the unconscious nature of man himself) and the binding of human destructiveness. And it's bigleast correlates with the goals of group psychotherapy, because It is very important for each of us to learn to cope with destructive impulses, to be able to withstand our own and other people’s aggression. And this is very important. Since communication in the group is not structured or limited to certain topics, but free discussion is used, this allows each participant to open up more fully. Each participant, building interactions with other participants and the group as a whole, brings his own problems and the drama of his life into this communication. Group members respond to each other's projections, and thus, in the group process, the participants' internal dramas spontaneously play out. Without knowing ourselves, we project unconscious parts of our personality onto others. Each participant projects his own inner contents and outdated expectations onto others and at the same time himself becomes a screen for other people’s projections. Everyone projects their wound outward instead of healing it within. These processes create group dynamics, during which each participant works on the most immature and infantile parts of the personality associated with complexes of fears and defenses. It is these immature aspects of the participants' personalities that hinder group processes. The space of group analytical therapy allows you to track your own tendencies towards incorrect and distorted perception, when you see not the situation, but your fears about the situation. A person says some words to you, but you do not react to these words - you react to some of your own fears. In the process of interacting with the group and receiving feedback, the participant begins to see how the process of replacing reality with pictures from the past, images of parents, and other significant figures occurs. Participants learn in the process of group work to track these tendencies in themselves, which allows them to change this mechanism of mental life. The process of group dynamics follows certain cycles. In psychology there is even such a concept as “group age”. The psychoanalytic group is no exception in this sense; it goes through natural cycles in its development - birth, development and completion. Each stage has its own difficulties. The initial stage, for example, is characterized by strong anxiety, tension, a feeling of uncertainty of the situation and the riskiness of self-presentation. The task of the participants is to learn to cope with intolerable feelings, to learn to see each other, to understand, to realize their own value for the group, the value of each participant and the group as a whole. It is important for each participant to feel a sense of belonging to the group; for the group as a whole it is necessary to realize the opportunity to draw strength from its own resources. Thus, a relationship of trust is gradually formed between group members, in which emotional disclosure of the participants becomes possible, and emotional connections are born that influence our development. Trust allows us to gain a sense of security, and then we can open up. When we move away from emotional connections in interpersonal relationships, then the conditions for the development of participants are not created, the desired structural changes in their personality do not occur, and as a result, the authentic experiences of the participants, their need for authentic forms of interaction, are blocked. Then we get extremely impoverished interpersonal relationships, and the person's life becomes emotionally poor and empty. And the group situation helps each participant to see what is hindering him in the relationship, what is preventing trust, self-disclosure, and acceptance of other group members. Each group has healthy potential, which is expressed in its ability to understand, work through and resolve conflicts and tensions that exist within it. In the process of group dynamics, we are faced with various manifestations of group behavior, not always constructive. Free, open communication helps to overcome obstacles to communication and trust, and soften aggression with understanding..