How to love yourself? , self-confident) written on the refrigerator, in the bathroom and on the ceiling :), various meditations with the search for self-love within myself, all sorts of trainings for confident behavior, where I had to do something outside my comfort zone, for example, a spontaneous dance in front of barely familiar people :) In general, everything happened. It’s just that either I wasn’t a very diligent student, or I didn’t follow these methods exactly, but I didn’t get long-term results. Then I started thinking - either I’m looking in the wrong place, or I’m looking for the wrong thing... :) While studying coaching, I realized that if you don’t get what you need, then the wrong question was asked in the first place. So you need to find the right question in order to find this right result. Now, in order. We have the question “How to love yourself?” Let's try to go from the opposite. What is love? What are its manifestations? And why do we even think that we don’t love ourselves? We talk about love when we think about someone all the time, we care, we want to fulfill all his desires, we want this person to achieve the best in life, so that he always feels good ... Like a mother about her child, like a loving woman about her beloved. Now let's return to ourselves. Don’t we care about realizing our own desires 24 hours a day, don’t we think from morning to night what else we can do to make us feel good, or how good it will continue indefinitely? And how can we say after that that we don’t love ourselves. We love you! Yourself more than anyone else! This is how nature works. All human actions are dictated by self-love and the desire to satisfy one’s needs. Even if a person does something for the sake of others, but more on that another time :) So, we have come to the conclusion that a person loves himself initially. And if he asks the question “How to love yourself?”, then he comes to nothing. And what need is inherent in this question? Why did it arise? How would I answer: “because I see a bunch of shortcomings in myself, I have an inferiority complex.” And then another question arises: What to do with this inferiority complex? Why do I feel that I have shortcomings if I love? Let's now try to pose the question in such a way as to understand: Why do I need to feel my shortcomings? Are you surprised? Don’t be surprised, this is the only way we will find the correct answer :) Because according to the laws of nature, everything that is good and useful in us. Let’s look for the benefits together :) Each person has his own set of unique qualities and properties inherent in nature. But a person has these qualities and properties not so that he engages in narcissism, but so that with his uniqueness he can add to society and be useful to other people. I will even say more: if a person does something for society, not by force, but according to his own desire, then his unique natural qualities and properties begin to manifest themselves and be realized. And if it doesn’t do anything, then no amount of meditation will help you discover your talents :) So what does knowledge of the natural structure give us? And it gives the answer to the question: Why do I feel my shortcomings? And the answer is: In order to compensate their shortcomings in others! How is that?? Yes, it’s very simple :) Let’s do an exercise and understand how we can work correctly with our inferiority complex :) Take a sheet of paper. We divide it into two parts. We write on the left side our “shortcomings”, and on the right side we write “What needs to be done for others.” Example: Disadvantage: I’m not beautiful enough What needs to be done for others: tell other people compliments, see the beauty in them and tell them about it from with all my heart. Another example: Disadvantage: not self-confident. What needs to be done for others: call friends, support them in their endeavors, sincerely give them confidence, say that they will succeed. Is the logic clear? Then get started!