Lately, women who have entered the period “from 40 to 50” often come to me for consultation. Maybe, of course, the whole point is that I was lucky enough to go through it and live through it? Or perhaps this age period really is conducive to reflection, introspection and reassessment of values? Well, in order. Analyzing the requests of my clients of this wonderful age group, I would venture to compile a list of the most common experiences. Beauty. In my youth, you could go out all night and even “use”, and in the morning you could rinse your face with tap water and look fresh and beautiful. Now, having slept all night in your bed, you get up in the morning and try not to look at yourself in the mirror for another 2 hours, so that all the bruises and swelling will subside at least a little. Without drawing your face, you try not to go outside. You buy a closed swimsuit to hide your “accumulations”. And you prefer not to meet with your classmates, because you remember your shock from meeting Tanya from a parallel class. This is the one who has always been the first beauty... And now you barely recognized her when you met by some fleeting details. And now you are afraid that you will also have difficulty being recognized by those who wrote notes to you in class and walked you, timidly, home. Men in general. They no longer turn around or look after you. They don’t hang up the phone or make appointments. You can no longer sit in a tower like Rapunzel and wait for a wonderful young man to come and climb to perform a feat in your name. More and more often you remember the joke when in your youth “to no one,” then “only to him,” and in the end, “to whom?!” And you realize that your time is running out. That there may still be one chance left to experience a wonderful passion that excites the blood and dizzy. And you are already looking not so much for him, the prince, as for a man in whom this need of yours for love can somehow be realized. Health. You consider yourself healthy only if you haven’t started a comprehensive examination of your whole body. Based on the results of this examination, the first thought that comes to your mind is “how can I still live with all this?” Husband. Unlike men in general. Well, there are various options. Still, of course, close and dear. But already tired, with a paunch, apathetic and indifferent. And you meet him at home in a robe and with dinner on duty, because you no longer expect surprises. Amazing romantic nights are far behind us. Sex in the UFR style (conditional physiological rhythm) once a week (if you're lucky). There is another option - near and dear, but not mine. And then it’s painful, hopeless, humiliating, and you don’t know how to live further. Children. Grew up. The grown children have distanced themselves and prefer to live their own lives. They rarely contact you and do not last long. You are rewarded with a new role - grandmothers. Or you had the foresight to give birth to a baby at the age of 35-40 and are now enjoying the joy of conscious motherhood. Parents. They are getting old. Requires increased attention. They strive to become your children. They leave. What else is left? ABOUT! Job. Salvation if the work is loved and brings joy. But in this case, there is often an illusion that you can work on the accumulated experience for a long time. Too lazy to come up with something new. These young ones need to run forward. But I already know everything and I can do everything. Often imperceptibly, but very quickly, you begin to realize that you are hopelessly behind, losing your dexterity, skills, and qualifications. It’s even worse if I only remembered about the need to work now, when the children have grown up and there is a lot of free time. You understand that you no longer have time to catch up. All around are young, active, assertive and very energetic. You are relegated to secondary roles. Money. You realize the need to save for your old age. You understand that the time of your biggest earnings has already passed. But the habit of a certain standard of living remained. You dream about “your own business”, a well-paid job, you dream, you are afraid, you rock the boat, you calculate the risks, you count all the costs, you dream, you no longer dream... What can we do?.