We are used to the idea that relationships mean closeness with a partner, friend, colleagues, etc. Therefore, our main emphasis in interacting with others is on close contact. Often, when entering into a relationship, people may be afraid of intimacy. In this case, I’m talking about the fear of trusting, opening up, and becoming attached to a person. This is emotional intimacy, not physical. Physically, people may be together, but their sensory parts are a little apart. Such circumstances can cause discomfort. It is important to understand that in relationships there is not only closeness, but also distance. And it is not so easy to bear. It takes time to overcome it. Distance arises both in partnerships and in friendships and communication with relatives. When we pull away or don't get close enough, it doesn't mean that our partner is bad or did something wrong. We have a need for our own space. Or we need more time to get closer (most often this concerns the beginning of a relationship). Despite the desire to be alone, this process affects both parties. It is also worth noting that distance often causes fear, since it is not related to the closeness that we are initially aimed at. The one who is distant may feel guilty, irritated by her, or by his own inability to explain what is happening to him. Also, irritation can be caused by “should”, i.e. “I want to separate, but I can’t, because I need to be a worthy partner, friend, etc.” From the category of “I want to, but I can’t.” As a result, solitude can be achieved through a quarrel. Having cooled down, having been alone with himself, the person “comes back” with a different mood. It can give sweetness in intimacy. And a quarrel, in this case, acts as an assistant in resolving the situation. The one from whom they are moving away begins to build different hypotheses of their “why”. He feels guilty, abandoned, lack of attention. He thinks that he did something wrong, or that he is not interesting, has a difficult character, or is not good enough. There are many reasons for self-flagellation. I think everyone will remember their situations and what thoughts come into their heads. It happens when one partner is very attracted to the other, the second just needs privacy. Mood synchronization did not occur. This is very unpleasant and creates tension, which then grows like a snowball. It is important to understand that relationships are not only about intimacy. Relationships are also the ability to maintain distance, to face the boundaries of another person. Relationships are the ability to withstand a distant period and meet again. At the same time, do not distance yourself even more because of your own grievances. Do not make any claims. And accept the distance of another person. Think about your distance. If it is not there, then why? What happens to me when I spend my entire life being intimate with others? Why am I not able to maintain my own distance? What's behind this? What am I afraid of? What do I really want? Well, the main question is, what are relationships for me, what do I receive and realize through them? Good luck in your self-discovery and take care of your relationships..