We are used to living in anxiety; we have only known this emotional state since childhood. We don’t know how, we weren’t taught to live and act out of relaxation. Mom, the boss, the child calls, and our alarm immediately goes off. This is a dependence on negative emotional arousal. The reason is in childhood. We lived like this, we saw how our parents fought. And we now believe that swearing is normal. But this is normal only for those people who are used to living depending on negative emotions. A person believes that swearing is the norm, because... I saw this in childhood. Or your mother constantly asked you: - where are you? - when will you be home? For some, this still happens now)))))) Mom was constantly worried about you and you felt this anxiety of hers. And we also learned from our mother to live in this anxiety. This is called dependence on negative emotional arousal. Your body lives only on this dependence on negative emotions. You open your phone in the morning, your alarm already goes off, you meet with a friend - she starts giving you advice, talking about her situation, dragging you into negativity. We are used to feeling this way. It is important to realize this dependence. Remember where you experienced negative feelings during the day. Yeah, almost everywhere: - when you watched the news, - when you talked with your mother, - when you were deliberately late for work in order to again experience negative emotional excitement to experience this again: - Oh, I don’t have time to do anything again... - when you piled a bunch of things on yourself on the weekend. Although they might not have done this. This is also a manifestation of dependence on negative emotional arousal. Do you recognize yourself? This is the first step to get rid of addiction to negative emotions. The consequence of this addiction is the inability/inability to feel “good” emotional states and “good” emotions, to get high and enjoy life. If you see people who are constantly in negativity, just be aware that they are addicted to it, that in their childhood there was only one negative thing around them, that most likely they had an anxious mother, grandmother, perhaps they lived in a negative area where people were constantly negatively excited. That is why it is not enough for them now to just be near a pleasant person interesting person, they do not know how to experience pleasant sensations, they have learned only negative feelings. They constantly need to quarrel with someone, dump their “poop” on someone, be negative, talk about bad things, share bad news, burden them with health problems. How to get rid of negative emotional arousal: It is important to recognize that a negative emotional state is inherent in us and we “love” to experience it. We unconsciously go into different events, situations where we will experience this. It’s important to start realizing this: - Oh, I’m doing this again - Oh, my mom called me again and told me something bad. Apparently it depends on negative emotional arousal. I want you to spend the next few days understanding what triggers you into a state of negative emotional arousal. Track these triggers!!! These could be people, events, situations. And be sure to share the results in the comments. If someone close to you needs help from a psychologist, please contact us. I accept online and in person in Korolev.