Even the calmest parent can not restrain himself and yell at his child. I consider this topic very relevant because I often encounter it while working as a practicing child psychologist. Children and teenagers talk about this, and parents often admit that they cannot always cope with their emotional state and burst out screaming at their child. Today I will share how you can cope with yourself so as not to do something that you will later regret and blame yourself for what happened. If you take an adult and start yelling at him unpredictably and strongly, then he will automatically become absent-minded Veronika Stepanova 4 ways to Stop yourself and don’t start screaming: Scream to yourself, not at the child. Do not blame the child for what happened, but share and express your thoughts and feelings. Using the pronoun “I” instead of “You” in words. I'm upset, I feel bad, I'm "angry" and I'm "angry." These words will not offend and hurt your child so much. Monitor your irritation and warn others about it. I’m very angry now and I really want to scream, what should I do? By asking your child for advice, your child can tell you how to cope with crying. For example, kicking a pillow or tearing paper. If you still can’t restrain yourself and start screaming, then you can even at this stage turn everything into a joke and reduce the intensity of your scream. The release of emotions will be reduced, you will not scare the child and most likely will not injure him. Use the children's method of dealing with anger, you need to lie on the floor or sit down and start breathing deeply. You won't believe it, but this helps a lot. Give it a try. If nothing helps you or you couldn’t cope with yourself. If you are upset, trampled, feel powerless and unable to change on your own, then I invite you to my place for consultation. I have expert experience in solving this problem. There are positive cases with positive dynamics in solving such difficult problems. I have not only practical experience as a child psychologist, but also in counseling parents. Children are often traumatized not by the event itself, but by the reactions of their parents and people around them. Take care of yourself and your children. What ways do you know? Do you think it is traumatic for a child to scream??